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One Strategy to Improve Your Client Attraction

The Soulful Approach to Client Attraction: Nurturing Genuine Connections for Business Success
Are you an entrepreneur seeking to attract and retain clients in a soulful, aligned manner? Look no further than the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast where Kavita Melwani, a master certified success and business coach, shares invaluable insights to empower spiritually-led businesses in running purposeful and profitable enterprises.

In a recent episode, Kavita discussed a pressing question faced by many entrepreneurs – how to attract clients effectively. Through her extensive experience as an entrepreneur and coach, Kavita addressed the nuances of client attraction strategies, shedding light on the importance of genuine connections and nurturing relationships.

She emphasizes that while many entrepreneurs cite social media as their primary client attraction tool, the intricacies involved demand careful consideration. From choosing the right platform to posting frequency and content types, the social media approach requires a cohesive strategy tailored to your business’s authentic essence.

One specific strategy Kavita delves into is the direct message approach. She candidly examines the prevalent pitfalls of disingenuous outreach and highlights the need for authentic, value-driven connections. Drawing from her personal experiences, Kavita stresses the significance of building relationships founded on trust and alignment, rather than succumbing to transactional interactions.

A key takeaway from this enlightening episode is the need for a nurturing component in client attraction strategies. Kavita insightfully points out the often overlooked aspect of nurturing connections with past, current, and potential clients. This nurturing, genuine approach involves offering value, building trust, and genuinely seeking to contribute to others’ lives, all without the expectation of immediate returns.

Moreover, Kavita underlines the vital role of the energy and mindset that entrepreneurs bring to their client interactions. Drawing parallels to real-world scenarios, she contrasts the impact of pushy sales tactics with genuinely helpful and welcoming approaches. The lesson is clear – the energy and intent behind client interactions significantly influence the outcomes.

The podcast episode concludes with a powerful call-to-action for entrepreneurs to adopt these soulful, nurturing strategies and witness the transformative impact on their business results. The episode serves as a compelling reminder that successful client attraction goes beyond mere strategy – it involves tapping into genuine, empathetic connections and embodying an authentic, supportive presence in all interactions.

In essence, by prioritizing sincere, meaningful relationships over transactional pursuits, entrepreneurs can truly embody the soulful, purposeful approach to client attraction advocated by Kavita Melwani. With this invaluable guidance, entrepreneurs are empowered to rise up as the leaders they were born to be, shining their light confidently and opulently in the business world.

To explore more insightful discussions on soulful entrepreneurship and thriving in business with authenticity and purpose, tune in to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast and embark on a transformative journey towards aligned, genuine success.

Key Topics of this Episode: One Strategy to Improve Your Client Attraction

Primary Topic: Importance of Having a Clearly Defined Client Attraction Strategy

  • The complexity of client attraction strategies
  • Nuances of attracting clients via social media
  • Different aspects of social media strategy to attract clients
  • Importance of authenticity in private messaging strategy
  • The impact of personal preferences on client attraction strategies
  • Nurturing connections and relationships in client attraction
    Primary Topic: Authentic and Genuine Client Attraction
  • Emphasis on authenticity in client attraction
  • Recognizing inauthentic and disingenuous strategies
  • The importance of nurturing genuine connections
  • Impact of personal energy and mindset on client attraction
  • Comparing authentic and inauthentic sales approaches
    Primary Topic: Building Genuine Relationships in Client Attraction
  • Importance of nurturing connections and relationships
  • Genuine support vs. seeking something from others
  • Impact of genuine energy in client interactions
  • Importance of genuine and helpful approach in client interactions
    If you have any further questions or need additional information, feel free to ask!

Analogy for This Episode: One Strategy to Improve Your Client Attraction

Imagine your marketing strategy is like baking a cake. You can’t just throw the ingredients together and hope for the best. Each ingredient represents a different aspect of your strategy, like the type of social media platform you use, the content you post, and the way you connect with people. Just as you carefully mix and measure the ingredients for a delicious cake, you need to carefully consider and tailor each aspect of your marketing strategy to create a compelling and authentic message.
But it’s not just about the ingredients; it’s also about how you bake the cake. Similarly, it’s not just about the marketing strategy but also about how you show up and nurture connections. Think of your energy and mindset as the heat that bakes the cake. If your energy is like a warm and welcoming oven, it will create a positive and inviting experience for your audience. But if your energy is like a rushed and impatient oven, it can leave your audience feeling uneasy and looking for the nearest exit. So, just as a well-baked cake depends on the right ingredients and the perfect temperature, a successful marketing strategy depends on the right elements and the positive energy you bring to it.

Transcript for This Episode:

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:
My name is Kavita Melwani and I’m.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:02]:
A master certified success and business coach with two decades of experience as an entrepreneur and almost a decade as a coach. I want to personally welcome you to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast where my vision is to empower as many spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable businesses aligned with true selves. I want you to confidently and opulently shine your light without the overwhelm, the stress or the burnout. Together, we will explore challenges that soulful entrepreneurs face and real, implementable solutions so you can step into your unique purpose and shine. It is possible to bridge the success you already have with the truest, soulful, mystical parts of yourself. Are you ready to rise up as.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:57]:
The leader you were born to be?

Kavita Melwani [00:00:59]:
Then join me, my soulful friends. The time is now for you to rise up and shine your light. The world needs you.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:08]:
Hello, soulful entrepreneurs. Welcome to this week’s episode.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:13]:
So people come to me and clients come to me all the time, and.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:19]:
Especially entrepreneurs with the question and the discussion about how to get clients right.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:27]:
And so it can be, sometimes when.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:29]:
I’m in a networking event, it can be like a sensitive topic that people kind of don’t want to ask directly.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:34]:
Because there may be a sense of they could be somewhat of a competitor or it’s kind of sheepish. You want to feel like you don’t.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:47]:
Know how to get clients. But really, I don’t think there’s anything.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:51]:
Wrong with learning from others and learning.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:53]:
New strategies and ways that you can attract clients to your business. The thing is, oftentimes when you ask people how they get clients, very few people have a clearly defined strategy. And when you really dive deeper into their strategy, there are a lot more.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:13]:
Layers than you can see.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:17]:
Okay, so let me give you some examples. So, for instance, if someone says that they use social media to attract their clients, that is a very nuanced strategy. There are so many aspects to attracting clients via social media. Do they, for instance, use Facebook, or do they use Instagram? Or do they use LinkedIn or they use TikTok? Do they use YouTube? What do they use first as their primary platform? Do they use more than one platform? And then you go on to saying, are you posting content on those platforms? And how often are you posting content? What type of content are you posting?

Kavita Melwani [00:03:02]:
And then beyond just posting content, what.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:06]:
Are the strategies that you are using? Are you using a direct message or private message strategy?

Kavita Melwani [00:03:14]:
Are you using a group?

Kavita Melwani [00:03:17]:
Like, do you have, for instance, a Facebook group? Do you go live. If you’re on Facebook, are you using your personal profile?

Kavita Melwani [00:03:25]:
Is your business page a type of business page that has you as a person or is it an actual company?

Kavita Melwani [00:03:36]:
Does it have your logo? What are the keywords you’re using in your social media profiles? And then how are you connecting with people if you’re messaging?

Kavita Melwani [00:03:45]:
Do you have a group on LinkedIn?

Kavita Melwani [00:03:49]:
Do you do events and how often.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:51]:
Do you do events and how much.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:52]:
Do you promote those events? If you do alive, do you promote the live? How much ahead of time? So do you see when somebody says something like, I use social media strategy? There are so many aspects to that. And then the other part of it is, for instance, I want to talk.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:10]:
About the direct message strategy a little bit.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:13]:

Kavita Melwani [00:04:14]:
So there are a lot of coaches, business coaches, business strategists, I would say.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:19]:
More so than coaches out there that.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:23]:
Are teaching that private message strategy.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:26]:
One of them is to find people’s profiles and connect with them.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:31]:
That would be ideal clients. And then you nurture that connection through messaging them, unfortunately, and you’ve probably had the similar experience, a lot of it.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:43]:
Is very fake, okay.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:47]:
And as a person that is empathic and sensitive, I can sense and read.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:52]:
Through a lot of the times, the BS, okay. And it is very disheartening when people are just obviously reaching out and doing like a blanket reach out.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:06]:
And then there’s all the bots that do the reach out and then there’s the strategy. Are you taking on new clients? Tell me about your coaching business.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:19]:
And it’s something I’m working on and.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:22]:
Not being annoyed by this, right. Because that tells something about me and.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:26]:
I know that I don’t like to bother people.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:27]:
So that is a trigger for me. And on the other hand, I can.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:33]:
Tell you that I am not going.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:35]:
To purchase invest in coaching when someone reaches out to me that way. If, when I invest in a coaching relationship, it’s because I know that person or I can refer to them or I trust that person or I’ve been.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:52]:
Following them for a while. I do spend some time with their content. I get to know them, see if.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:59]:
Their way of doing business, their strategies, just how they operate, how they show up is in alignment with who I am. And there have been times where I.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:10]:
Invest in a coach and it comes.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:13]:
From the place of fear, right?

Kavita Melwani [00:06:15]:
So it’s like an investment of like, oh, this person’s going to help me overcome all the things that I’m afraid of or that part of me that most likely because most of the coaches I’ve hired are. She has all the parts of me that I don’t have, and oftentimes that’s not a good match. Whenever I’ve really checked into my intuition.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:37]:
And hired from that place and trusting myself and trusting how I feel with.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:42]:
Person, it’s always worked out in a positive way. Of course, hiring a coach has always.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:48]:
Helped me in some way, shape or.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:49]:
Form, but some have been better outcomes than others.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:52]:

Kavita Melwani [00:06:53]:
So this is the same thing with. So when you think about any strategy.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:59]:
This is how it relates to what.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:00]:
I was talking about, about the private messaging strategy. When you think about a strategy that someone is teaching, is that a strategy.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:09]:
That you would respond to as a client?

Kavita Melwani [00:07:13]:

Kavita Melwani [00:07:13]:
So ask yourself that.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:15]:
And if it is, maybe you like getting direct messages.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:19]:
I mean, I’m not going to make.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:20]:
That assumption for you, but I’ll tell.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:22]:
You that I don’t like that and that’s not my way.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:25]:
And when people continue to engage with.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:28]:
Messages in a way that feels very not genuine and inauthentic, that actually makes me not want to work with the person.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:37]:

Kavita Melwani [00:07:37]:
Versus if you have a conversation that’s.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:40]:
Actually authentic and really want to get.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:42]:
To know people, if you’re coming from the place of I want to get to know this person, this person seems interesting. Maybe they could or could not be a client, but then let me connect with them. The thing is, with that strategy, to really get to know a person, that takes some time and a lot of.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:00]:
People, unfortunately not everyone, okay?

Kavita Melwani [00:08:03]:
But a lot of people that are using this strategy are using bots or are using this kind of a can responses. And it’s a numbers game, right?

Kavita Melwani [00:08:13]:
So they’re not looking for deep connections and really wanting to build a relationship and inviting and giving something for free to the person instead of selling them your program.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:26]:

Kavita Melwani [00:08:27]:
So if you want to connect with people using one of these strategies, think about how would you feel, how do you feel receiving messages? Would you feel better if you were.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:40]:
Given something of value, offered something of value, and then they nurture you through.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:47]:
Your other ways that you keep in touch. So when we are looking, going back to saying when we’re looking at how.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:56]:
A person is attracting clients, and even.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:58]:
If we ask them directly and they tell us there are lots of aspects to that that we don’t know, and then even when you’re looking at your marketing strategy, you want to be clear that you are looking at strategies that feel good to you. These are strategies that you would actually feel good doing. And if it’s something you want to try and you don’t feel good doing.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:21]:
Then working on why it doesn’t feel.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:24]:
Good to you, working on maybe the subconscious beliefs that are contributing to it, feeling not good or even the mindset and or the mindset about it.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:36]:

Kavita Melwani [00:09:36]:
And then approach it instead of just forcing the strategy. And so I want to offer something.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:44]:
That I see missing in most people’s.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:48]:
Marketing strategies that I speak to. Not all, of course, but most is the nurture part.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:54]:

Kavita Melwani [00:09:54]:
So there’s a lot of part about.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:57]:
Connecting with people, and there might be.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:00]:
Posting content, sharing workshops, but the connecting with people part can be missing. And the nurturing, I mean, is there, but the nurturing, those connections can be missing. So how are you nurturing connections that you have, your past clients, your current clients and your potential clients, and even just people, right. Just nurturing collection, build relationships and without the intention of getting something out of them. Because when you build relationships with that intention, the person can tell. So what if you show up with the idea of how can I help this person? How can I support this person? How can I contribute in some way, shape or form to make their life better? And so whatever marketing strategy you’re using, whether it’s the social media strategy or other strategies, which I’m going to talk more and more about that in this podcast, it’s really important for you to work on how you show up. How you show up makes a huge impact on the results that you are receiving. If all your strategies are not working in the way that you would like, first, of course you can look at the strategy, but then the energy of how you show up, the mindset of how you show up, people can tell, right?

Kavita Melwani [00:11:30]:
So can you imagine, like, this happened to me recently, I went into a store to buy something. And if you go to some stores.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:40]:
Where some people have commission.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:43]:
You can sense when they’re like, some people see that as, oh, God, I got to make a sale.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:48]:
I got to make a sale where another person that’s in the same scenario sees you and wants to help you, right? And so there’s a different energy that happens when they approach you and say, can I help you find something?

Kavita Melwani [00:12:02]:
So one of them came immediately as.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:04]:
I walked in the door. I literally didn’t have time to even look, right?

Kavita Melwani [00:12:08]:
And I could feel, and I was.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:10]:
Kind of like almost wanted to leave the store.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:13]:
That was the feeling that I had.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:14]:
But I needed something, so I just kept looking around.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:17]:
And then I actually did end up leaving because I didn’t find what I needed.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:21]:
I went to another store, and in this store, I was looking around. And then the person came up to me and said, well, first they welcomed me to the store and they said, are you looking for something specific or are you just looking around? And I told them, well, I’m looking around for now.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:42]:
And they’re like, well, if you need me, this is my name and I.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:46]:
Can help you find whatever you need, okay? And so that just put my nervous system at ease and I was ready to look. And that’s the energy that you want when you are marketing, when you’re talking to clients, when you’re talking to potential clients, and even just talking to other business owners, when you’re networking and connecting and building relationships. So the nurturing piece and the energy of how you show up, if you can take those things from today’s podcast and apply them, I guarantee you will see changes is in your results of your business. So until next time, take good care. Bye.

One Key to Your Successful Vision in 2024 and Beyond

The Key to Reaching Your Full Potential as an Entrepreneur: The Power of Planning

Are you an entrepreneur seeking to elevate your success to new heights? As a seasoned business coach and successful entrepreneur with almost a decade of coaching experience, I’ve witnessed one key factor that most entrepreneurs overlook, and it’s holding them back from achieving their true potential. In this week’s episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast, I want to shed light on the transformative power of planning and why it’s crucial for your business growth and personal development.
Defining Your Own Success

Before diving into the importance of planning, it’s vital to emphasize the significance of defining success on your own terms. Success isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s about aligning your business goals with your true purpose and values. It’s about confidently shining your light without the overwhelm, stress, or burnout. By determining what success means to you, you pave the way for intentional and fulfilling entrepreneurship.

The Missing Ingredient: Planning
As entrepreneurs, we often get caught up in the day-to-day hustle of running our businesses. We focus on marketing strategies, client interactions, and administrative tasks, but we tend to neglect one crucial aspect: planning. Planning isn’t just about organizing your day; it extends to your week, month, quarter, and year. It involves assessing your progress, identifying what’s working, and making necessary changes or improvements.

The Resistance to Planning
Many entrepreneurs shy away from planning, believing it detracts from actively working on their businesses. However, without a structured planning process, you may be missing out on unlocking your business’s true potential. By dedicating time to plan, you’re investing in the long-term sustainability and growth of your business.

Creating a Planning Framework
Developing a consistent planning framework is essential. It allows you to evaluate your marketing efforts, assess your time management, and make informed decisions to propel your business forward. This involves conducting a time audit of your past activities, determining what’s yielding positive results, and identifying areas for improvement.

Looking Ahead: Your Yearly Plan
Rather than waiting for the new year to set resolutions and goals, it’s advantageous to plan ahead. By taking the time to strategize and set your intentions for the coming year, you’re setting the stage for a purpose-driven and impactful business journey. It’s about aligning your time and marketing strategies with your overarching vision for success.

Join the Planning Journey
If you’re ready to delve into the transformative power of planning and create a solid roadmap for your business, I invite you to join me on December 1st for an exclusive planning event. It’s an opportunity to collaborate, gain insights, and craft a personalized plan for the upcoming year. Alternatively, if you prefer a more independent approach, I’ll provide three actionable steps for you to kickstart your planning journey.

The Time for Transformation is Now
As a solopreneur, taking the time to plan is not only beneficial for your business but also vital for your personal growth and mindset. Embracing planning as an essential part of your entrepreneurial journey will undoubtedly lead to sustained growth and success as both a business owner and an individual. The time for you to step into your unique purpose and shine is now.

In conclusion, planning is the missing puzzle piece for many entrepreneurs striving for success. It’s time to carve out space for intentional planning, reflection, and strategizing. Whether you choose to embark on this journey independently or as part of a community event, the rewards of planning are boundless. Are you ready to take the next step in your entrepreneurial journey? Together, let’s plan for an opulent and purposeful year ahead.
Until next week, take good care and embrace the transformative power of planning.
With abundance and purpose,

Kavita Melwani

Key Topics for This Episode: One Key to Your Successful Vision in 2024 and Beyond

Primary Topic: Introduction

  • Introduction of Kavita Melwani
  • Vision of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast
    Primary Topic: Defining Success
  • Importance of defining success on your own terms
  • Determining your own definition of success
  • Link to related podcast episode about defining success
    Primary Topic: Importance of Planning
  • Planning on various levels – daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly
  • Need for a systematic process for assessing and planning
  • The difficulty and importance of planning
  • Encouragement to start a planning process
  • Personal experiences with planning for success
  • Announcement of a planning event on December 1
  • Steps to start planning on your own
    Primary Topic: Invitation to Planning Event
  • Details about the planning event on December 1
  • Benefits of participating in the planning event
  • Registration link for the planning event
    Primary Topic: Steps for Planning on Your Own
  • Detailed three-step process for planning the year ahead
  • Emphasis on the simplicity but not ease of the planning process
  • Encouragement to follow the provided format or attend the planning event
    Primary Topic: Conclusion
  • Brief summary of the importance of planning
  • Encouragement to take time for planning
  • Closing remarks and invitation to plan the year ahead or attend the planning event

Analogy for this Episode: One Key to Your Successful Vision in 2024 and Beyond

Sure! Planning for success as an entrepreneur is like taking a road trip. Imagine you’re setting out on a journey to a new and exciting destination. Before hitting the road, you need to plan your route, decide on stops along the way, and make sure your car is in good working condition. Similarly, in business, you need to plan your path to success, decide on milestones and goals, and ensure that your business strategies are effective. Just as a road trip can be more enjoyable and successful with careful planning, your entrepreneurial journey can be more fulfilling and fruitful with thoughtful and regular planning sessions.

Transcript for This Episode

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:
My name is Kavita Melwani and I’m a master certified success and business coach with two decades of experience as an entrepreneur and almost a decade as a coach. I want to personally welcome you to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast where my vision is to empower as many spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable businesses aligned with true selves. I want you to confidently and opulently shine your light without the overwhelm, the stress or the burnout. Together, we will explore challenges that soulful entrepreneurs face and real, implementable solutions so you can step into your unique purpose and shine. It is possible to bridge the success you already have with the truest, soulful, mystical parts of yourself. Are you ready to rise up as the leader you were born to be? Then join me, my soulful friends. The time is now for you to rise up and shine your light. The world needs you.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:08]:
Hello, soulful entrepreneurs. Welcome to this week’s episode of the podcast. So this week I want to talk about something that most of you don’t do that is stopping you from reaching your levels of success, the levels of success that are possible for you. And that, by the way, if you haven’t listened to my episode on determining what is your definition of success and why that’s important, I will have that link in the show notes. Because success needs to be defined on your own terms, not what other people tell you is success. So, first, what is the type of success that you’re looking for? How do you define success for yourself? So, once you have that in mind and you want to move forward, most of the time as entrepreneurs, we are working our business. We’re working on our marketing. We’re maybe learning, we’re trying to learn newest trends and strategies.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:14]:
We are maybe attending in person events, online events. We are connecting with other people and working on the administrative stuff, the financial stuff, all the things that it takes to run a business. And we often neglect this one thing, which is about really planning. Now, when I talk about planning, I’m not just talking about planning your day. I’m talking about planning your week, your month, your quarter, your year, and having a process that you follow to assess, to take a look at what you have done and what changes you need to make moving forward, if any. And sometimes it’s not actually a change that’s external, it’s an internal change, right? A lot of times that’s the case. But if you’re not doing this on a regular basis, if you’re not planning, if you’re not looking at what you have done and what worked for you and things you want to change and having your success vision, then you are missing out on reaching the level of success that you desire. And so planning is really important.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:32]:
It’s very difficult to do on your own. Most people don’t want to spend time on this because they feel like they’re taking away from their business. Right. I could be marketing, I could be talking to other people, I could be working with clients. I could be doing all these other things instead of being, working away from my business, really looking at what I’m doing and making it better. If you don’t have a process that you follow, I’m going to encourage you to start, start today with something small. Maybe you look at your week, maybe you look at your month, maybe you look at every time you do something that has to do with marketing and do some kind of assessment for that. Look at one aspect of your business and start to examine that aspect and see what can be done differently.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:31]:
And then create a system for yourself where you’re visiting that every week, every month, every time the event happens, something that is regular. So planning for the year ahead is also important. Most people wait till the new year to set the resolutions and then the year gets started and we get busy. Okay. So I have attended in the past events that help me plan for my year ahead. Whenever I’ve done that, I have a much better year. So this time, if you want to do a planning with me, I am going to have an event on December 1. That is exactly that.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:15]:
It is about you looking at your business and making plans for the year ahead, how to spend your time, and what kind of marketing makes sense for you. And so that way you can start the year off with a plan in place. Okay. And sometimes if you do that ahead of time, then you can start to put the pieces in place so that you can start the year off doing what you need to do. Okay? So if that’s something that interests you, you would like to do it in a community. It’s more fun. You can have the energy of other people. I’m going to have this on December 1.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:52]:
There’ll be a registration link in the show notes. I’d love for you to join me. If you don’t want to do it in an event format, then I will give you three steps that you can do on your own right now. So first, I want you to take a look at your year, or maybe even the last two to three years in your business and do a time audit of how you’ve been spending your time, how you’ve been marketing, and then connect with those things. Step two, and see what is working for you. And working could be based on the results that you’re receiving from those, or it could also be things that you are enjoying and you’re receiving something that may not be as tangible from those activities. Assessing all of that, and then the third part of it is deciding what you will continue next year, where the gaps are, if you’re going to let go of some things where the gaps are, or what are some things that you’re going to continue but you can improve, and then how you can improve that and then set into place a plan for yourself for the year ahead. Now, it sounds simple.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:06]:
It is simple, but it’s not always easy. So you can follow that format if you like, or you can come to my planning day so that we can work together and create this for you. It’s completely up to you. And all I’m saying is, as a solopreneur, planning is essential. Taking this time away from your business so that you can look at it and improve as an owner, improve your mindset, improve your activities, improve how you spend your time. You will continue to grow as a spiritual entrepreneur and as an individual. So it’s a short episode this week. I just wanted to come to you and suggest that you take some time to plan.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:52]:
And again, if you want to attend the event, you can do that. Either way, it’s time to go plan your year ahead. Until next week, take good care. Bye.

Why Big Goals are Stopping Your Success

Title: The Pitfalls of Setting Big Goals: A New Approach to Achieving Success
Are you tired of setting grand New Year’s resolutions only to find yourself feeling discouraged and defeated by February? If so, you’re not alone. In a recent episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast, master success and business coach Kavita Melwani shared powerful insights into why big, overarching goals can hinder rather than propel our success. Here’s a recap of the episode and a new approach to setting and achieving our goals.
Melwani starts by acknowledging the allure of setting ambitious resolutions and goals at the beginning of each year. Vision boards, card readings, and goal-setting exercises are all popular ways to set the tone for the year ahead. However, she warns that the pressure to completely overhaul our lives and achieve monumental changes can often lead to overwhelm and disappointment.
The Pitfalls of Big Goals
Melwani cautions against setting unattainable, outcome-based goals that are too sweeping and complex. She explains that the pressure we put on ourselves to achieve these goals can actually hinder our progress. Setting lofty goals without a clear plan and actionable steps can lead to frustration and a sense of failure when we inevitably fall short.
A New Approach: Focusing on Actionable Steps
Instead of setting grand, outcome-based goals, Melwani encourages listeners to focus on specific areas of improvement and choose three to focus on for the year. From there, she advises picking one area to start with and breaking it down into actionable steps. It’s about shifting the focus from the outcome to the steps needed to get there.
For example, if the goal is to be healthier, rather than fixating on losing a certain amount of weight, the focus shifts to actionable steps such as reaching a certain daily step count, monitoring portion sizes, or committing to regular workouts. By focusing on these specific steps and measuring progress, individuals can feel a sense of achievement and momentum, rather than discouragement.
Applying the Approach to Business Goals
Melwani extends this approach to business goals, emphasizing the importance of breaking down desired outcomes into actionable steps. Whether it’s generating more income, attracting more clients, or creating better work-life balance, the key is to focus on tangible actions that lead to these outcomes.
Seeking Support and Guidance
A crucial aspect of this new approach is the recognition that seeking support and guidance can greatly accelerate progress. Melwani shares a personal example of investing in a health and wellness coach, which ultimately led to more sustainable weight management. The same principle applies to business – seeking mentorship, coaching, or investing in courses can provide valuable insights and support on the journey towards achieving business goals.
In conclusion, Melwani advises against setting overwhelming, outcome-based goals and instead emphasizes the power of focusing on actionable steps, seeking support, and gradually making progress in specific areas. This practical and sustainable approach allows for consistent growth and a greater sense of accomplishment throughout the year.
If you resonate with this approach and feel that you could benefit from support in achieving your business goals, Melwani offers a complimentary session to discuss your needs and explore how working together could be a good fit.
As we approach the new year, let’s rethink the way we set and pursue our goals. By focusing on achievable steps, seeking support, and approaching our goals with intention and clarity, we can create meaningful and sustainable progress in both our personal and professional lives.
If this resonates with you and you’d like to delve deeper into this approach, tune in to the full episode on the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast. Wishing you a purposeful and successful year ahead!

Key Topics for This Episode: Why Big Goals are Stopping Your Success

Primary Topic: Setting Realistic Goals

  • The pressure of setting big, overarching goals
  • Breaking down areas of life that need improvement
  • Choosing three areas to focus on and starting with one
  • Identifying the steps needed to reach each goal
  • Setting goals based on actions and steps, not just outcomes
  • Avoiding setting massive, simultaneous goals
  • Seeking support, guidance, and knowledge
  • Investing in support and guidance to accelerate progress
    Primary Topic: Applying Goal-Setting to Business
  • Identifying business outcomes, such as generating more income or having more clients
  • Assessing current business activities and deciding on improvements
  • Focusing on attracting more clients rather than just doing more activities
  • Seeking support and guidance from mentors, advisors, courses, or books
  • Investing in support and guidance for business to accelerate progress
    Primary Topic: Personal Example of Investing in Support
  • Personal experience with weight management challenges
  • Hiring a coach for guidance and support
  • Learning and implementing new skills to maintain weight
  • Successful maintenance of weight due to invested support
  • Highlighting the value and benefits of investing in support
    Primary Topic: Invitation to Seek Support
  • Reiterating the importance of avoiding huge, outcome-based goals
  • Encouraging seeking support to avoid repeating the same goals
  • Offering a free session to explore working together for business improvement
    Primary Topic: Conclusion and Farewell
  • Wrapping up key points and recommendations
  • Encouraging self-care and taking care until next time
  • Inviting interested individuals to seek the free session on working together for business improvement

Analogy for This Episode: Why Big Goals are Stopping Your Success

Setting big, overwhelming goals for yourself is like trying to eat a whole cake in one bite. It’s messy, discouraging, and not very effective. Instead, think of your goals as slices of cake. Pick a few slices to focus on, and then take small, bite-sized pieces one at a time. It’s more satisfying, manageable, and allows you to truly enjoy the process of achieving your goals. And just like how a friend can help you cut and enjoy the cake, seeking support and guidance can make reaching your goals much more enjoyable and successful.

Transcript for This Episode

Kavita Melwani [00:08:26]:

Kavita Melwani [00:08:26]:
My name is Kavita Melwani and I’m a master certified success and business coach with two decades of experience as an entrepreneur and almost a decade as a coach. I want to personally welcome you to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast where my vision is to empower as many spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable businesses aligned with their true selves. I want you to confidently and opulently shine your light without the overwhelm, the stress or the burnout. Together, we will explore challenges that soulful entrepreneurs face and real, implementable solutions so you can step into your unique purpose and shine. It is possible to bridge the success you already have with the truest, soulful.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:18]:
Mystical parts of yourself.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:20]:
Are you ready to rise up as the leader you were born to be? Then join me, my soulful friends. The time is now for you to rise up and shine your light.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:32]:
The world needs you.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:36]:
Hello and welcome to this week’s episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club. And so this week I want to discuss about New Year’s resolutions and all the big goals that we set for the year. In last week’s episode, I talked about.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:54]:
How to create a vision for the year ahead. And I love planning and I love.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:01]:
Working on vision boards. I do a card reading for myself for the year. I pull a card for every day of the month. And those are all things to set the tone and energy for the year. And I also know that there’s a lot of pressure, especially during this time of year, to create a completely new life.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:29]:
And so people, a lot of us, will set goals and resolutions and this vision to create a complete overhaul of.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:40]:
All the areas of our life that.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:41]:
We would like to improve or maybe not working as well as we would like. And we expect to do that in the next year.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:50]:
And so what that happens with that is with these big, overarching goals and the pressure that we put on ourselves. That’s why often we don’t reach those goals. It’s too much, too soon, and there are too many steps that need to be taken. And when we make those big changes.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:09]:
Immediately, they often are not lasting.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:13]:
So instead of doing that, instead of.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:16]:
Making and setting these goals that feel somewhat unattainable and maybe some of the.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:23]:
Same goals that you set every year, it’s important to really be clear about what areas of your life that you would like to improve. Then choose three to focus on this year, and then choose one to begin with. And then be clear about what it would be like to reach that goal. Once you reach that goal, what would it look like? So if you want to be healthier, right? What would it look like to be healthier? Would it be for your clothes to fit better? Would it be to wake up feeling energetic?

Kavita Melwani [00:12:06]:
Would it be that you are moving more every day?

Kavita Melwani [00:12:12]:
What would it look like for you to be able to reach those goals? And once that’s clear, then you want to break that down into actual steps. And I’m going to encourage you to set the goals instead of the outcome, which is what we usually set. Right.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:29]:
So we say, well, the outcome that I want is to lose ten pounds. And I’m just going to say that because that’s a goal that a lot of people have.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:38]:
But instead of setting the goal based on the outcome, setting a goal based on the steps that you’re going to take.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:47]:
Okay, so once you’ve kind of broken.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:50]:
Things down, and let’s say you say.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:52]:
That I want to lose ten pounds, and you look at your actions of what you want to take, maybe it is to make up, you need to move more. So you want to reach a certain amount of steps a day, or is it that you want to control your portions and so maybe you want to.

Kavita Melwani [00:13:17]:
Try intermittent fasting or.

Kavita Melwani [00:13:19]:
I’m not a proponent of anything, really. I think that you have to pay.

Kavita Melwani [00:13:23]:
Attention to what works for your body. So whatever it is that you’re choosing as the steps that you believe will take you to reach your goal, that is what you focus on as your goal. So your goal is, I’m going to hit 10,000 steps a day. I know. I’ve read research recently that that’s not necessarily a magic number, but I’m just.

Kavita Melwani [00:13:50]:
Saying that as an example. Right. So let’s say your goal is, I’m.

Kavita Melwani [00:13:53]:
Going to reach 10,000 steps a day. So what you measure is reaching those.

Kavita Melwani [00:13:59]:
Steps instead of, I want to lose the weight. Right.

Kavita Melwani [00:14:03]:
And you can go back and check.

Kavita Melwani [00:14:04]:
On in a few. Like, let’s say you check in a month and you say, okay, I did.

Kavita Melwani [00:14:09]:
The steps a day. Is this helping me getting closer to the losing the weight?

Kavita Melwani [00:14:14]:
Right. The outcome that I want? Because just focusing on the outcome can be discouraging, because you can say, well.

Kavita Melwani [00:14:23]:
I’m not reaching my goal, I’m not getting there, but instead focusing on the steps that you’re taking and what you’re actually doing. So focusing on the action that you’re taking is more encouraging and actually will move you forward. And then my recommendation is that you do this in a tiered way. Okay. So, for instance, you start with the steps. If you want to be healthier, you start with the steps.

Kavita Melwani [00:14:54]:
And then once that is feeling better, then you say, okay, I’ve done this.

Kavita Melwani [00:15:01]:
For a few weeks, right?

Kavita Melwani [00:15:02]:
When it starts to feel like it’s a habit, some people say 21 days, some people say 40 days.

Kavita Melwani [00:15:07]:
I don’t know what it is for you. And then now I’m going to focus more on improving my food. And so I don’t want you to just say, improve your food completely. Maybe choose a meal, choose snacks. If you snack.

Kavita Melwani [00:15:22]:

Kavita Melwani [00:15:23]:
Choose not to snack. Whatever it is, that’s your next step. And so each day as you do this, at the end of the three months or six months, you are going to progress. You are going to get closer to your goals. Instead of saying, I’m going to be healthier. So no more snacking, no more carbs, intermittent fasting, 10,000 steps a day, workout, five days a week, all those things and trying to do all of it at the same time. And then I’m also going to do.

Kavita Melwani [00:15:54]:
These things in my life and I’m.

Kavita Melwani [00:15:57]:
Going to go on more vacations. So you start booking all the vacations and then all these things that you start don’t get finished. So these areas of your life. And so I used something that a lot of us have as goals is like better health, right.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:11]:
As an example.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:12]:
But I want to move this into your business. So as this entrepreneur, there are a.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:22]:
Lot of things that I’m sure that.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:24]:
You want to improve in your business. Okay?

Kavita Melwani [00:16:27]:
And a lot of times people come to me because.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:32]:
They want to generate more income, they want to have more clients, or they’re overwhelmed and they want to create systems so they can manage.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:39]:
Everything, or they want to not be.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:44]:
Working twenty four seven. Or even if they’re not working 24/7.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:48]:
What I often have experienced myself is thinking about things 24/7 even though I’m not actually working in my business.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:57]:
And then it feels like you’re working.

Kavita Melwani [00:16:59]:
All the time and it can be.

Kavita Melwani [00:17:00]:
All consuming, so you don’t want that anymore. And so those are some of the goals that people have when they come to me, okay?

Kavita Melwani [00:17:08]:
And they have these big goals of.

Kavita Melwani [00:17:12]:
Let’S say, generating more income. And so what usually people do, and.

Kavita Melwani [00:17:17]:
What I’ve done myself often is to.

Kavita Melwani [00:17:19]:
Just do more things, right? Let’s just add more. Whatever you’re doing, multiply that or add more things to do instead of looking at what you’re already doing and how to improve that, what do you enjoy assessing what you’re doing and making decisions from there.

Kavita Melwani [00:17:39]:
So when you’re making the setting goals.

Kavita Melwani [00:17:42]:
For your business, I want you to do something similar to the way I demonstrated for healthier, being healthier, break down the aspects of the business.

Kavita Melwani [00:17:54]:
What are the outcomes that you want in your business? What are the things that you would like to do, whether it’s working less hours, not thinking about your business as.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:03]:
Much, making more money, having more clients.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:07]:
Maybe working less, marketing in different ways.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:11]:
Whatever those things are, and then break.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:15]:
Down the steps that you need to.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:17]:
Take for that to happen.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:19]:
So if it is going to be.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:23]:
That you want to generate more income.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:25]:
Well, then we need to look at.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:27]:
Where is your income coming from right now.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:30]:
How can you attract more if you.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:33]:
Work with clients, more clients, and maybe replace some of the activities that you’re.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:40]:
Doing that you can let go of. Right. Instead of just adding on top and.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:46]:
Then taking steps in those directions, in that direction for the eventual outcome of attracting more clients. Now, in my experience, I can say.

Kavita Melwani [00:18:58]:
That sometimes I can do this on.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:00]:
My own and I can figure this out, but a lot of times I can’t. Or working with someone to help me.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:09]:
Figure out where I need to focus.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:12]:
Where I need to make changes just accelerates the process. Right.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:16]:
It’s not that I can to do it on myself.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:18]:
It’s just so much easier and faster.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:20]:
When I work with an aligned coach to help me with that mentor or advisor.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:25]:
And so then when you’re looking at these areas of your life and figuring.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:30]:
Out that maybe I need some support.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:32]:
With that, you can refer back to.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:35]:
The episode where I talked about how to decide where you need support in your business, where to invest in your business, and some of that is investing in the support. Okay. And I did talk about, in that episode about looking at different types of support. I mean, it could be an advisor.

Kavita Melwani [00:19:53]:
Mentor, coach, or it could be a course, or it could be a book, whatever that is.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:00]:
Right. I know that whenever I’ve invested in that, I’ve seen better results. So one of the things that I’ve done is that I often talk about.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:11]:
My business, but I’ll talk a little.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:13]:
Bit about my personal life in this moment. Right? So I have had a challenge with my weight my entire life, as far back as I can remember.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:24]:
And I’d lose the weight and then.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:25]:
I’d gain it back, and then I’d.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:27]:
Lose the weight and gain it back. And I’ve tried every single diet, probably not every single one, but almost every.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:34]:
Single diet out there, and nothing would last right. I decided to hire a coach that I followed for a long time.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:46]:
And so with this coach and her.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:48]:
Program, she taught me how to count.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:52]:
Macros, which I was like, when I heard about that, I was like, that’s too complicated.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:56]:
I don’t want to do that. Right.

Kavita Melwani [00:20:58]:
But she broke it down in a step by step way and I started to do it and start to figure.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:02]:
It out and it became just how I functioned. And then we worked on switching my workouts out. So I was lifting more weights instead of just doing cardio all the time.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:14]:
And it took a little while, and still I need some tweaks, right.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:19]:
So I work with health and wellness.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:23]:
Coaches on and off to help with that, but this is the first time in many years that I’ve been able.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:30]:
To maintain my weight for, I would.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:33]:
Say about three years now. Okay. And so because I learned the skills to do that through this coach, if.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:41]:
I had continued on my own, I don’t think I would be in that place right now.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:46]:
And so that investment was worth more.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:49]:
Than what, I mean, easily more than what I put in.

Kavita Melwani [00:21:53]:
But those type of things to improve your life, it’s completely worth it. Right.

Kavita Melwani [00:22:01]:
So that’s what I believe, and that’s just one example of how I’ve invested.

Kavita Melwani [00:22:05]:
In support and it’s benefited me. So I just want to recap and say, don’t set these huge, overarching goals for yourself and that are all outcome based because most likely a month or so from now, you’re going to feel some discouragement. Instead, think about the areas of your life that need improvement. Pick three areas to focus on this year and then pick one to start with, break down the steps that you believe you need to take to reach that outcome and take one step at a time and receive support, guidance, knowledge as you need, invest in those things and then you’re more likely to come to 2025 and feel like you’ve progressed and that you’re not repeating the same goals again and again and again. And if you feel like I could be a person to support you with your business so you could work less, have systems in place, generate income in your business, then we need to talk.

Kavita Melwani [00:23:19]:
I have a link to schedule a free session so that we can talk about where you are and what your.

Kavita Melwani [00:23:27]:
Needs are and if working together is a good fit. And I

Creating Your Aligned Vision for 2024

Title: Creating Your Aligned Vision for 2024: A Soulful Entrepreneur’s Guide
Greetings, fellow soulful entrepreneurs! Welcome to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast, where we aim to empower spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable ventures aligned with their true selves. I’m Kavita Melwani, a master certified success and business coach with two decades of entrepreneurial experience and almost a decade as a coach. Today, I am thrilled to guide you through the process of setting your vision for the year ahead, ensuring it resonates with your soulful essence and paves the path to a magnificently fulfilling 2024.
In our endeavor to navigate the journey ahead, it’s essential to start by envisioning the primary energy that you want to embody at the end of the upcoming year. What is the core intention that you wish to manifest by the close of 2024? This intention could be captured in a couple of paragraphs or condensed into a single powerful sentence. Once you have articulated this vision, select a word that encapsulates this aspirational energy. Let this word resonate within you and become a beacon of focus and inspiration.
Setting goals from your vision is crucial, and it is equally important to document them. Research has shown that individuals are more likely to achieve their goals when they are written down. So, take the time to pen down your vision for your business, your goals for the upcoming year, and how they align with your chosen word of the year. It’s also beneficial to break down these goals by quarter and month. This granular approach allows for a clear understanding of the steps required to progress and achieve your desired outcomes.
While it’s essential to dream big, it’s equally vital to set achievable milestones. Often, the grand visions we hold may take multiple years to fully materialize. By breaking down goals into manageable monthly targets and pinpointing the tasks needed to reach them, we can bridge the gap between aspiration and accomplishment. It’s imperative to strike a balance between a bold vision and setting realistic goals to prevent self-sabotage and foster continuous progress.
Self-sabotage can manifest in various ways, hindering us from fully realizing our potential. Being aware of our self-imposed limitations and how we may hinder our own progress is crucial in effecting positive change. Through introspection and honest assessment, we can identify our personal challenges and actively work towards overcoming them.
As our journey unfolds, it can be beneficial to create a visual reminder of our goals and aspirations. Vision boards serve as powerful tools to visually manifest our dreams and goals. They help in fostering a deep connection with our aspirations and serve as daily reminders of our vision. Creating an aligned vision board, one that truly resonates with our soulful essence, can further amplify the manifestation of our desires.
In conclusion, as we chart our course for 2024, let us endeavor to create an aligned vision that harmonizes with our soulful purpose. Embrace the energy of your word of the year, set realistic goals, and break them down into actionable steps. Confront self-sabotage with awareness and intention, and consider crafting a visual representation of your vision with an aligned vision board. Together, let us rise up as the leaders we were born to be, empowered by our soulful pursuits and guided by an unwavering commitment to our purpose.
If you resonate with the concepts discussed, I would love to hear your word of the year and how you plan to manifest your aligned vision for 2024. Stay tuned for more empowering insights and strategies to support your journey as a soulful entrepreneur. Until next time, take good care, and may your path be illuminated with purpose. Shine on, my soulful friends!
Warm regards,
Kavita Melwani

Key Topics for This Episode: Creating Your Aligned Vision for 2024

Primary Topic: Setting Your Vision for the Year Ahead

  • Importance of staying connected to your vision
  • Activating abundance and setting goals from the vision
  • Choosing a word that encompasses the primary energy you want to feel at the end of the year
  • Writing down the vision, goals, and word of the year
  • Breaking down the goals by quarter and month
  • Setting achievable milestones and tasks to support the vision
  • Balancing a big vision with achievable milestones
  • Recognizing and overcoming self-sabotage
    Primary Topic: Using Visualization Tools
  • Creating a visual reminder of goals, such as a vision board
  • The power of a well-aligned vision board in manifesting goals
  • Recommendation for a vision board workshop course to create an aligned vision board
    Primary Topic: Summary and Conclusion
  • Recap of the vision-setting process
  • Encouragement to create a well-aligned vision board
  • Promotion of a vision board workshop course
  • Invitation for feedback and connection

Analogy for This Episode: Creating Your Aligned Vision for 2024

Setting your vision and goals is like planning a road trip. First, you decide on the feeling you want at the end of the journey – maybe it’s excitement, fulfillment, or joy. This feeling becomes your word of the year, your theme song for the road trip. Then, you map out your goals, which are like the exciting stops along the way – whether it’s visiting a new city or experiencing a breathtaking view. However, you don’t just jot them down and forget. You break them down into monthly and quarterly checkpoints, just like planning to reach certain destinations by certain times. But remember, just like on a road trip, it’s not just about reaching the destinations but also enjoying the ride, the small moments, the serendipitous discoveries. And creating a vision board is like capturing the inspiring postcards and pictures along the journey, reminding you of the beauty and possibilities ahead. So, buckle up, keep your word of the year playing, and enjoy the scenic route to your 2024 destination!

Transcript For This Episode

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:
Hello. My name is Kavita Melwani and I’m.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:02]:
A master certified success and business coach with two decades of experience as an entrepreneur and almost a decade as a coach. I want to personally welcome you to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast where my vision is to empower as many spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:23]:
Businesses aligned with true selves.

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I want you to confidently and opulently shine your light without the overwhelm, the stress or the burnout. Together, we will explore challenges that soulful entrepreneurs face and real, implementable solutions so you can step into your unique purpose and shine. It is possible to bridge the success you already have with the truest, soulful, mystical parts of yourself. Are you ready to rise up as the leader you were born to be? Then join me, my soulful friends. The time is now for you to rise up and shine your light. The world needs you.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:11]:
Okay, so welcome to the third week of this series on getting you ready for the year ahead. So a couple of weeks ago, I provided you with an abundance visualization so you could activate abundance. And then last week, I discussed how to decide where to invest in your business. And so if you haven’t heard those two episodes, I’m going to encourage you to go back and listen to those. I will have the links also available in the show notes. And so today I am going to talk about setting your vision up for the year ahead. What are some pieces that are really important so that you can stay connected to your vision? So if you were listening last week where I talked about setting goals from your vision, and maybe you grabbed that visualization that I talked about, then this is the next step in that process. And if you haven’t, I have that link available for you today as well.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:15]:
So once you have that visualization, I am going to encourage you to sit down, get away from your computer or tv or anything like that. Maybe even go someplace away from your desk and think about what the energy is, the primary energy that you want to feel at the end of next year, what is that primary intention that you have? What do you want to feel at the end of 2024? And that is going to be once you have that clear, and maybe it’s going to be two paragraphs, or maybe it’s just a sentence. So whatever comes through, I want you to pick a word that encompasses that. And you can use the thesaurus. You can google that if you want to use AI and taking what you’ve written and asking what a word is that encompasses that. So that will be your word of the year. Having a word of the year is a really succinct way to connect with what you want to create and the energy of what you want to create. And you can have this word up.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:19]:
I encourage you to have it written, repeat it, share it with people, because now you’re already activating the energy of your word of the year. Okay? And so once you have that word of the year, of the energy of what you want to create, what is that vision? What are those goals that you have? Right. And so if you’ve already kind of set those goals and you have that vision, then writing them down is really important. A lot of times people will say, well, I know I want to do this, this and this. I know what I want to create, but they haven’t written them down. There are studies and I don’t remember exactly which one I’m referring to that show that writing your goals down, you’re more likely to achieve them. Right. Just taking this time to say, this is my vision for next year and beyond, maybe what is your vision for your business? And what is your vision for next year connected to your word of the year? And then what are the goals that you have for each areas? And then I’m going to encourage you to break it down by quarter and by month, okay? Because what I’ve seen is most of the time, people create these huge goals for the year, and sometimes they create new resolutions and they’re very big.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:36]:

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And they’re expecting this to happen in the next year. But actually most of the things that they want to create will most likely take multiple years. And so they set these big visions and they set these goals and then they may not achieve them and they feel defeated and they’re like, what’s the point? Right? So I don’t want that to happen for you. If you really break down what your goals are and what you would like to accomplish each month for the upcoming year, and then you can even go further and see what tasks you need to do to reach your goals. And then, like I said last time, where do you need to invest in order to support you in getting to those goals as well? You can start to see what is possible. Right? Like, what is it that you can actually do each month? And when you have that clarity, you can maybe edit a little bit. Now, I’m not telling you not to have a big vision, okay? But there’s a balance between having a big vision and a bold vision, a brilliant vision, and setting a vision so out of reach that the chances of you actually reaching that goal and creating that vision is small and it’s a way of sabotage. So I want you to think bigger than what you think is possible.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:58]:
That’s so important. And also set those achievable milestones. Set those goals for yourself, set the tasks. It’s really important to be granular and break things down a little bit. Just having a big vision is great, but if you’re not taking the steps to achieve those vision, of course with faith and with trust that the universe will also move towards you. If you take steps, then steps will be brought towards you. You’re not alone. You are supported and guided, and we’re not going to just lock ourselves in our house and expect things to happen.

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So spending the time to actually take those steps and looking back and being honest with yourself if you’ve actually done it, because I know that a lot of times, one of the things that I remember really early on in my business, I was working with a coach and she had a process to create steps. Okay? So these were the steps we were going to take for the next few months. Okay. I think we did it. I’m trying to remember, but I think it was quarterly. So I set goals, I did all the tasks, and I came back and I said I did everything. I’m just not getting the results. And so when we really looked at what I was doing, I was doing it.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:20]:
I was checking things off the list because I’m really good at checking things off. Like, if I say I’m going to do something, it will most likely get done. It’s rare that I don’t get something done that I say I’m going to do. But sometimes the way I do that, the energy I show up with, the belief that I have that it’s going to work right. So all those things are impacting how I show up. So if I’m posting on social media and in the end I’m like feeling, which I have felt this sometimes, like, well, nobody’s watching anyway. Nobody’s listening, nobody’s watching my reels, then the way that I’m going to do that and show up is not going to be motivated, excited. It’s not going to be fulfilling my purpose.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:05]:
It’s going to feel like just something I needed to get done. So I know, and I recognize that that is one of the things that I do is that I just get things done sometimes. But I don’t do it in an aligned way. I don’t do it where I’ve looked at my mindset looked at my actions, look what I actually believe and feel behind that. And so that’s my challenge. My challenge is not that I don’t get things done. My challenge is how I can end up sometimes doing them. So what is it for you? What is your challenge? It’s really important for you to understand how you sabotage, how you stop yourself and how you get in your own way, because if you don’t know what that is, then you can’t change it.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:45]:
Right? So once I had this awareness, I’m definitely more conscious of how I show up and how I do things. I work on my thoughts and my feelings. I feel what I want to feel, and I don’t always do it. Sometimes I’m just so busy and I’m just doing thing to thing and then I don’t get the results and I’m like, I wonder what’s happening. Oh, yeah, there’s the thing again. There’s my thing of just getting things done so I’m able to stop myself and correct what I’m doing. I’m able to work on that, do that inner work that’s so necessary and then move forward differently. So just a summary for you today of what we talked about.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:31]:
So, setting your vision, and once you have kind of that vision of what you want to feel at the end of the year, what is that feeling that you want? And you’ve written that out. Picking a word, that word of the year and continuing to remind yourself of that word. Setting your goals and breaking them down monthly and having a vision. Now there’s a bonus, and the bonus is creating something visual to remind you of these goals. And that is a vision board for me. I love creating vision boards. Some years I have lots of resistance to do it, but whenever I do, I’m reminded and I put it up and I look at it every day. It is creating that connection with my mind that I can create what I want in my life as long as I’m willing to take the steps.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:22]:
Okay. And so if you want to create a vision board, I have a vision board workshop course that can help you create an aligned vision board. Because a really powerful vision board isn’t just about slapping down a bunch of pictures on a poster board. Sure, that’s better than not doing anything. So if you’ve done that, great. But if you want to create a board that’s really aligned, then my course is available and we have a discount code which will be in the show notes so that you can grab that course and you’ll be able to create an aligned vision board, and so that kind of wraps all the things together to get you ready for a wonderful 2024. Okay. So I hope that this was helpful.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:11]:
I’d love to hear your word of the year if you want to share. And in the meantime, I look forward to continuing to connect with you and share whatever I can to support you in creating your soulful business. Until next time, take good care. Bye.

Activate Abundance through your Subconscious Mind

Activating Abundance: A Guided Visualization Exercise
Hello soulful entrepreneurs and abundance seekers! Welcome to this week’s blog post (Activate Abundance through your Subconscious Mind) where we delve into the powerful practice of activating abundance through a guided visualization exercise. If you’ve been seeking tools to manifest abundance in the upcoming year, then this is for you.
In a recent podcast episode, the insightful Kavita Melwani shared an abundance visualization and exercise designed to help you activate abundance in the upcoming year. She emphasized the importance of taking time to assess and make changes, and this exercise serves as a powerful tool for that process.
Abundance, as Kavita Melwani explained, is something that emanates from our inner world rather than being solely determined by external results. This marks a paradigm shift, urging us to look within for the abundance we seek. The visualization exercise aims to support you in uncovering any barriers to feeling abundant, helping you to release resistance and step into your fully abundant self.
The exercise begins with a relaxation and centering process, guiding you to bring awareness to each part of your body and release tension. Once in a relaxed state, you are led to visualize yourself in a serene natural setting, where you are encouraged to notice a symbol or image that represents what is stopping you from feeling abundant. This powerful visualization allows your higher self to communicate with you, offering insights and guidance on releasing resistance and embracing abundance.
As you sit in reflection, you’re invited to receive a message or symbol from your higher self, providing clarity on steps to release resistance and fully embody abundance. The exercise gently guides you to bring this newfound awareness and energy into your daily life, empowering you to grow in abundance each day and move forward in the full expression of yourself.
After the visualization, you are encouraged to write about your experience, the symbols or messages received, and to process your reflections using journal prompts provided. This reflective practice enables you to integrate the insights gained and take actionable steps towards activating abundance in your life.
The beauty of this exercise lies in its accessibility. You are empowered to download the abundance visualization and continue to activate abundance at your convenience, allowing you to shift your subconscious mind and nurture a mindset of abundance.
Incorporating this abundance visualization exercise into your routine can serve as a potent tool for self-discovery, growth, and attracting the abundance you seek. By inviting your higher self to guide you and releasing resistance, you open yourself to the flow of abundance that is inherently yours.
As you embark on this journey of activating abundance, remember that you are a perfect being of light, created from divine inspiration and connected to the divine. Embody this awareness, bring in the abundance, and move forward with the knowledge that abundance resides within you.
Take the time to engage in this visualization exercise, honor the insights that emerge, and watch as your capacity for abundance expands. Embrace the journey, trust in the process, and allow the flow of abundance to enrich every aspect of your life.
If you’re ready to activate abundance and elevate your path, be sure to engage in this visualization exercise and make space for the transformative shifts awaiting you. Here’s to a year of boundless abundance and fulfillment.
Remember, the abundance you seek is within reach, and it all begins with activating it from within.
Wishing you a journey of abundance and prosperity.
With love and light,
Kavita Melwani

Key Topic for this Episode: Activate Abundance through your Subconscious Mind

Primary Topic: Introduction to the Podcast Series

  • Kavita Melwani welcomes soulful entrepreneurs to the podcast.
  • Mentions the upcoming weeks and the need to prepare for the year ahead.
    Primary Topic: Importance of Assessing and Making Changes
  • Emphasizes the importance of taking time to assess and make changes.
  • Promises to provide tools and exercises to support this process in the upcoming podcasts.
    Primary Topic: Abundance Visualization and Exercise
  • Introduces an abundance visualization exercise to activate abundance.
  • Mentions the availability of the exercise for download in the show notes.
  • Highlights the difference between inner world abundance and external validation.
    Primary Topic: Guided Abundance Visualization Exercise
  • Instructs to close eyes and center the body, taking deep breaths to relax and go deeper into a relaxed state.
  • Guides through the physical relaxation process, starting from the toes and progressing to the entire body.
  • Encourages visualizing a beautiful place in nature and surrendering to the higher self.
  • Encourages reflection on symbols or images related to the resistance to abundance.
  • Encourages communication with the higher self and reception of a message or symbol to release resistance to abundance.
  • Guides to bring the received message or symbol into daily life and embody abundance.
    Primary Topic: Conclusion and Action Steps
  • Guides to slowly count to ten to return to full awareness after the visualization exercise.
  • Encourages writing about the experience, received symbols or messages, and using provided journal prompts for processing.
  • Offers to contact for any questions and to download the visualization exercise for continued practice.
    Each sub-topic provides a detailed breakdown of the content covered in the podcast, including the exercises and visualizations presented.

Analogy for this Episode

Sure, here’s a fun analogy to explain the concept of abundance explored in the podcast:
“Imagine that your mind is like a garden. Just as a garden needs nurturing, we must tend to our mind to cultivate abundance. Waiting for external validation to feel abundant is like waiting for the garden to magically bloom without tending to the soil. The abundance visualization exercise is like watering and feeding the garden, nurturing it from within to encourage growth and prosperity. By tending to our inner world, we can plant the seeds of abundance and watch them flourish, knowing that we are the creators of our own abundance garden.”
This analogy illustrates how inner work and visualization can lead to abundance, just like tending to a garden leads to growth and prosperity.

Transcript for This Episode: Activate Abundance through your Subconscious Mind

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:
You. Hello soulful entrepreneurs. Welcome to this week’s podcast. So I know a lot of you are going to be busy, some traveling, some of you with family, some of you taking time off from work. And so for the next few weeks, I am going to share some exercises that you can do to get you ready for the year ahead. I’ve been talking a lot on the podcast about how important it is to take some time to assess and to make changes. And so I’m giving you some tools that can help you with that process. And this week’s podcast I am providing an abundance visualization and exercise and that will help you activate abundance in the upcoming year.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:47]:
And then I also have the ability for you to be able to download the abundance visualization and exercises. There will be a link in the show notes. If you enjoyed the visualization and want to have it on your phone, listen to it more. And if you actually want to do the exercise that I provide with this, that can help you dive deeper. So enjoy this week’s exercise and the next couple of weeks I’ll be providing more tools and more things that you can do and take some time out for yourself to get ready for the year ahead. Take good care. Bye.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:27]:
Abundance is something that comes from our inner world versus the external results. Although it may seem counterintuitive, if you wait for the abundance to come to you, and that being your validation, if you wait for the abundance to show up in your life in all the ways that you desire and then believe in it and then attract it, it’s not going to happen or it will be really short lived. You will always be at the mercy of external circumstances. So what seems like abundance from validation is fleeting and it’s not true. This visualization is designed to support you in uncovering what is getting in your way of feeling abundant. So when you are ready, close your eyes, center your body in space and take three deep breaths in and let them out. And with each inhale you’re able to relax and go deeper, inhaling to bring in calm relaxation and exhale to release tension. With each breath you are going deeper and deeper into relaxed state.

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So we’re going to bring awareness to each part of your body now. And with that awareness comes relaxation and surrender. So now focus your attention on your toes and feet and release all tension. Release all resistance. Moving up your calves and releasing all tension. Inhaling, exhaling and releasing. And now moving that awareness to your thighs and your seat. Releasing on all tension there, moving up to your core abdomen, feeling that area, relax and release.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:05]:
Move to your lower back, mid back, upper back. Inhaling relaxation and exhaling tension, bringing awareness to your shoulders. We tend to hold a lot of tension there. Just taking a few moments to bring some breath into your shoulders, relaxing them and even feeling them drop down. Now moving the awareness to your neck, face and back of your head. Relaxing and releasing. Now that you’re in a relaxed state, bring yourself to a beautiful place in nature. Feeling the breeze, notice the colors and flowers.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:01]:
And as you’re walking in your place in nature, you see that there’s a place for you to take a seat. So as this place appears, you are drawn there to sit and to reflect. Here you are surrounding yourself with your place in nature and you’re surrendering to yourself and your higher self. As you sit and relax, you’ll start to notice that a symbol or image appears in front of you. This symbol has something to do with what is stopping you from being abundant. As the symbol appears, you bring awareness to any thoughts, feelings that are stopping you from feeling abundant. Your higher self is showing you the images, the thoughts and the feelings. And as you are aware of these thoughts and feelings, you may feel the emotion rise up in your body.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:20]:
And notice today where you are holding the resistance to bringing in abundance. And you can ask your higher self, what can I do to release this resistance? How can I truly step into my fully abundant self? So I’m going to pause for a moment and allow your higher self to provide you with a message. And if you don’t hear a message, you may see an image or a symbol. Allow whatever comes. It’s all okay, it’s receiving whatever you’re meant to receive in this moment. And as you receive this message or symbol, you’re going to bring this into your daily life. Each day your abundance grows more and more. You are able to move forward in the full expression of yourself.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:39]:
You release the resistance. So no matter what is going on around you, you know you are created from divine inspiration. You are connected to the divine and you are therefore a perfect being of light. Allow this awareness to pour over you and your entire body. Bring in the abundance and embody it. And as you slowly will bring yourself back, you will bring this symbol into your life. Bring back with you all that was positive and important. And I’m going to slowly count to ten and you will return fully awake, refreshed and happy.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:31]:
One. Two. Three. Feeling your senses returning. Four. Five. Six. Coming back.

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Seven. More awareness coming to your entire body. 8910. Open your eyes and be in the now. Now take a few moments to write about your experience and the symbols or message or even messages you received from your higher self. You can even use the journal prompts.

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That I’ve provided to help you process.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:20]:
And if you have any questions, feel free to contact me.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:31]:
So if you enjoy that, don’t forget to download this and continue to activate abundance. Listen to this visualization more than once and you can start to shift your subconscious mind. Take good care. Are.

Title: How to make time to make Vital decisions for next year
Welcome to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast, where we are dedicated to empowering spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable enterprises aligned with their true selves. As we approach the end of the year, it’s crucial to take the time to reflect, assess, and plan for the upcoming year. I’m Kavita Melwani, a master certified success and business coach with two decades of entrepreneurial experience and nearly a decade as a coach. Join me in exploring the practical solutions for soulful entrepreneurs to step into their unique purpose and shine in the year ahead.
As you wind down for the year, it’s vital to take a step back from your business, rest, rejuvenate, and assess what you want to continue and what you want to let go of. This process isn’t just about business decisions; it’s about consciously choosing how you want to show up in your personal and professional life.
The year-end hustle can bring about stress, whether from spending time with family, attending social events, or even the pressure to plan for the next year. It’s crucial to consciously choose your commitments and prioritize the essential tasks in your business. Take a moment to pause, reflect, and make decisions consciously, rather than operating on autopilot.
First and foremost, take stock of all the tasks you routinely perform in your business. Assess their significance and only continue with those that align with your vision and goals. Let go of non-essential activities and create space for what truly matters. This process can help alleviate overwhelm and create a sense of clarity for the year ahead.
In addition to evaluating business tasks, it’s equally important to manage your personal life effectively. Allocate time for self-care, your physical well-being, and activities that bring you joy. These are integral to maintaining balance and preventing burnout as an entrepreneur.
Reflection is a powerful tool. Take the time to reflect on the past year—acknowledge the joys, express gratitude for the challenges, and recognize the lessons learned. This practice can help you approach the new year with a sense of purpose and intention.
Consider setting a word or phrase for the upcoming year to guide your energy and focus. Deliberately create your vision, set goals, and break them down into actionable steps. By doing this, you are consciously creating your future rather than letting it unfold by default.
The decisions you make for your business and personal life should stem from a place of alignment and trust, rather than fear. It’s okay to give yourself space and time to make these choices, ensuring that they resonate with your authentic self.
As we approach the upcoming year, my word for 2024 is alignment. I encourage you to define your primary energy for the new year and make decisions that honor your purpose and intuition. Embrace the challenges and joys, and trust yourself to navigate the path ahead.
I welcome you to share your word of the year and the changes you plan to embrace for the upcoming year. Together, let’s rise up and shine our light in the year ahead.
Here’s to creating a purposeful and prosperous year. Take good care and embrace the journey that lies ahead.

Key Topics of This Episode: How to make time to make Vital decisions for next year

Primary Topic: Importance of Taking Time to Make Vital Decisions for Next Year

  • Planning for the next year during the end of the current year.
  • Pulling back on marketing and using time to plan for next year.
  • Taking time off to rest, rejuvenate, and assess business activities.
    Primary Topic: Managing Stress During the End of Year
  • Dealing with stress during the holiday season.
  • Evaluating stress related to family and social events.
  • Conscious choices about attending events to manage stress.
    Primary Topic: Assessing Business Priorities
  • Identifying essential tasks in the business.
  • Writing down regular business activities for assessment.
  • Letting go of nonessential activities to avoid overwhelm.
    Primary Topic: Balancing Personal Life and Business
  • Incorporating personal life activities into the schedule.
  • Setting aside time for self-care and well-being.
  • Identifying and prioritizing essential personal activities.
    Primary Topic: Reflecting on the Past Year
  • Reflecting on what brought joy and gratitude in the past year.
  • Acknowledging challenges and deriving lessons from them.
  • Identifying and letting go of things that are no longer serving a purpose.
    Primary Topic: Setting Intentions and Goals for the New Year
  • Choosing a word or phrase of the year to guide intention.
  • Setting specific goals and intentions for the upcoming year.
  • Making conscious decisions and setting actionable steps to achieve goals.
    Primary Topic: Creating a Positive Energetic Shift
  • Acknowledging gratitude and accepting challenges to influence positive energy.
  • Choosing to consciously show up in a new way for the upcoming year.
  • The importance of being conscious and actively making choices to serve oneself positively.
    Primary Topic: Making Decisions for the New Year
  • Allowing oneself the necessary time and space to make decisions.
  • Need for emotional attachment to some decisions and the process of releasing them.
  • Trusting oneself and making decisions consciously and in alignment with purpose.
    Primary Topic: Embracing Change and Trusting Intuition
  • Embracing change and enjoying the journey instead of waiting for it to be over.
  • Setting a goal to follow intuition and trust oneself in decision-making.
  • Sharing personal word of the year and encouraging others to do the same.
    Overall, the text emphasizes the importance of taking time to reflect, make vital decisions, set intentions, and manage both business and personal life effectively during the transition to a new year. It also highlights the significance of conscious decision-making, finding alignment, and embracing change with trust and intuition.

Analogy of this episode: How to make time to make Vital decisions for next year

Making vital decisions for next year is like planning a road trip. Just like you need to map out your route, decide on your stops, and pack the essentials for a smooth journey, making time to assess your business and personal life is equally important. It’s like taking a pit stop to check your map, refuel, and ensure you’re on the right track. By reflecting on the challenges you faced and the joys you experienced, you’re essentially looking in the rearview mirror to understand where you’ve been and how it has shaped you. Then, choosing a word or phrase of the year is like setting the theme for your trip, determining the energy and focus that will drive your journey. Finally, breaking down your goals into achievable steps and scheduling them is like plotting the activities and must-see attractions on your trip itinerary. Just like with a road trip, by consciously planning and making decisions for the journey ahead, you can ensure a more fulfilling and purposeful ride.

Transcript for this Episode

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:
Hello. My name is Kavita Melwani, and I’m a master certified success and business coach with two decades of experience as an entrepreneur and almost a decade as a coach. I want to personally welcome you to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast, where my vision is to empower as many spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable businesses aligned with true selves. I want you to confidently and opulently shine your light without the overwhelm, the stress or the burnout. Together, we will explore challenges that soulful entrepreneurs face and real, implementable solutions so you can step into your unique purpose and shine. It is possible to bridge the success you already have with the truest, soulful, mystical parts of yourself. Are you ready to rise up as the leader you were born to be? Then join me, my soulful friends. The time is now for you to rise up and shine your light.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:06]:
The world needs you. So we’re coming to the end of the year, and for a lot of people, this is their last full week of work, right? And so if you have your own business, depending on what you focus on, this also might be the last week that you are fully present in your business. But I do know that a lot of my clients and colleagues have pulled back on their marketing, as I talked about earlier in an earlier episode, using this time to kind of plan for next year to rest, rejuvenate, to assess the things that you want to continue doing, the things that you want to stop doing. That’s a really good thing to do right now. Some people wait till January, and then they start to get started with all the tasks that have to do with running a business. And then they actually never spend the time to step away from things and assess. And so taking some time off and taking time away from your business, even going outside where you normally work, can open up your perspective. And so on the flip side of this, on the other side of this, there are a lot of people experiencing stress during this time of year.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:26]:
Maybe there’s stress because you are spending time with family or because you’re not spending time with family. Maybe you have stress because there are more social events that you are attending. And especially if you’re introverted and empathic like me, sometimes those events can be draining. And yet, I do want to go. So whenever I have a choice, I consciously choose whether an event is something that I want to attend. And so as I’ve been able to attend events and learn how to manage, how I show up and what I do after, I’m able to attend more of these events and not have it totally throw me off, although I do get tired. So whatever the reason is that you’re feeling some overwhelm, it often feels like another thing that you have to do to step back and look at your business. So if that’s the case, then I would consciously choose the tasks that really need to be done right now.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:27]:
How many things that are you doing in your business that you just do because you’ve always done right? It’s kind of like you just repeat. You’re just repeating these tasks. And so spend time like writing down everything that you’re doing on a regular basis in your business. Even look at your calendar. I hope you’re using a calendar to track your time and what you’re focusing on and choose the things that are essential right now and let go of the things that are not. Instead of putting it on your list and moving it to each and every day and then beating yourself up because you didn’t actually get it done. So first, that’s the first thing that I would do. Then I would look at the social events that you have and make choices of what you’re going to be participating in and even add in, if you don’t already add in your personal life, things that you have to do to live and take care of your house, take care of your body, take care of your spirit, putting those things and making sure you’re setting aside time for those things as well.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:34]:
And so when you’re choosing what to let go of, letting go of nonessential activities, and then once you’ve done this, when you’ve looked at your time, let go of the things that you don’t really need to do, choosing what you’re going to focus on, making sure you’re putting in time for self, taking care of yourself basically as a human being, then pick some time that you can look back and reflect and reflecting on your business and reflecting on your personal life as well, because it’s all connected, right? We try to separate these things that are connected. Taking the time to look at the things that brought you the most joy and being grateful about those things. Look at the things that even though they were difficult, how you grew from those challenges. And maybe there are some challenges, you’re not sure how you grew yet, but you can still write those down. So writing down all the challenges that you faced and that some of them have overcome and what you learned from those challenges, even writing down then things that you are ready to let go of and feeling the pain, emotion, whatever that is there and then with that, you can choose what to bring in for the year ahead. Right. What is it that you want? A lot of people will pick a phrase or a word of the year and choose that to be the energy. And then you can set specific things that you would like.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:07]:
What would you like to achieve next year? What would you like to create in your life? If you’re not sure what you want to create, then you’re creating from your default, you’re creating from your subconscious mind. So I’m going to encourage you to do this. So you’re consciously creating. And so instead of just setting a New Year’s resolution by doing this process of looking back at the year, showing gratitude for the things that were good, showing gratitude for even the challenges, taking the lessons, you can move forward, a better person, a better version of yourself. Right. And so when you do that, then you can set goals from there. And then, of course, I’m always going to encourage you to not just set goals, but break them down and break them down into steps that you can achieve and start to schedule those steps. And when you do that, then you can have all the structure in place to achieve your goals.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:12]:
And it also by acknowledging all the things that you’re grateful for, by accepting those challenges that will impact how you show up energetically. And even the first part of this, where you are letting go of things that are not really vital for you to focus on, will help you show up energetically different. So these activities are going to happen this time of year is going to happen. How are you going to show up? Are you going to be fully present? Are you going to show up how you would like to show up consciously? Are you just going to repeat the same patterns from the years in the past, the patterns that don’t serve you? It’s your choice. The way that you’re going to do that is to be conscious. And so I do this myself, right. Anything that I talk about on this podcast or I recommend to my clients, I do myself. And I did do this in a group, in an aligned planning day.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:11]:
But before I created that event, I went through the process myself. And last week’s episode, I shared that I had invested in some things that I kind of regret, right? And I realized that I wasn’t following my intuition. And if I had listened to my true intuitive voice, I probably wouldn’t have made those steps. And I learned something valuable from everything that I did this year. Everything. And just writing it all down and looking at all the things, there’s a sense of accomplishment sense of, oh, I did these things that were out of my comfort zone. I took these steps, I learned these things. And next year, this is one I want to create.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:59]:
And I know that sometimes right now, I know that I’m in a point of making some decisions for next year of what I want to focus my energy on, what are some things that I want to let go of. And it can be difficult when you’re emotionally attached to some things, right? So it has taken a little bit of me giving myself space to make those decisions because of all the energy of everything that’s happening around, because of still running my business, because of also having family, because I will be traveling, because of all those things. I haven’t made all the decisions yet for next year, but I’m okay with that for now. I’m okay with giving myself the space, giving myself the time and making those decisions by January, right? Just giving myself some time. I’m set aside time in my calendar to step away and examine things and look at what’s important and create the plan for me. And that’s an alignment of where I am right now. And it may not be the same as next year. I know it won’t.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:12]:
I know it won’t. I’m going to change some things, and I love doing that when it’s in alignment, but I want to do that consciously, and I want to do that out of trust and out of fulfilling my purpose and not out of fear. So when I’m making those decisions, I have to feel that alignment. I have to make sure I’ve put myself in that place. I’ve let go of the past. So I’m going to encourage you to do that same thing. Look at what you’re ready to let go of. Send gratitude for the things that were great this year.

Kavita Melwani [00:10:47]:
Send gratitude for the challenges as well. I’ll tell you, this has been a very challenging year for me, and it’s been a very challenging year for a lot of people that I speak to. And I remember thinking that in 2020, right? I remember thinking in 2020 that, okay, that 2020 is over. And I remember that when it was over, we bid goodbye to 2020 and we bought, like, a pinata and put 2020 on it, and we all beat it up because we were ready for that year to be over. Little did I know that stuff would still come out and stiff stuff would still change and stuff would still happen. And that was, like, the catalyst for a lot of things. So instead of waiting for it to be over, I want to be here and enjoy the ride and for next year. My goal, like I said, is to follow my intuition when I make decisions, to trust myself instead of looking outward for the answers.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:53]:
And so my word of 2024 is alignment. So I’d love to hear what yours is, if you would love to share. If you don’t mind sharing with me, just send me a message and tell me what is your word of the year? What are you going to do next year differently? What’s that? Primary energy. So whatever it is, I hold high energy for that to occur for you. In the meantime, take good care. Bye.

Self-awareness, Reflection and Energy for Business Success

Embracing Self-Reflection and Mercury Retrograde for a Powerful Business Shift in 2024.
Are you ready to rise up as the leader you were born to be? In this week’s episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Podcast (Self-awareness, Reflection and Energy for Business Success) , Kavita Melwani, a certified success and business coach, delves into the power of self-reflection and harnessing the energy of Mercury retrograde for a transformational shift in your business in the upcoming year.
Reflecting on the previous year, Kavita emphasizes the importance of aligning your business decisions with your intuitive guidance. She encourages entrepreneurs to trust their inner voice, follow their instincts, and make conscious choices that are in harmony with their true selves. By recognizing the lessons from past decisions and honoring our emotions, we open ourselves up to growth and transformation.
Kavita draws attention to the upcoming Mercury retrograde and dispels the fear surrounding this astrological event. Instead of succumbing to apprehension, she invites entrepreneurs to utilize this period for introspection and self-reflection. Mercury retrograde becomes an opportunity to step back, reassess, and realign our business strategies with our deeper purpose.
During this reflective time, Kavita encourages entrepreneurs to consider what no longer serves them and to embrace the idea of letting go without judgment. By examining our actions and investments from a place of awareness, we gain the clarity needed to make conscious, empowered choices moving forward.
In addition to self-reflection, Kavita underscores the significance of inner work and understanding the subconscious programming that influences our behavior and results. By becoming aware of how our internal world shapes our external reality, we can make intentional shifts and create a more successful, aligned, and joyful year in 2024.
To support entrepreneurs on this transformative journey, Kavita offers an aligned planning workshop focused on visualizations and exercises to help individuals shape their year ahead. Additionally, she extends an invitation for a personalized coaching session to explore individual business needs and determine if a collaborative partnership would be beneficial.
As we approach the new year, let’s embrace the opportunities for inner growth, self-reflection, and intentional decision-making. By harnessing the energy of Mercury retrograde and leveraging the wisdom gained from the past, we can step into 2024 with clarity, purpose, and a renewed sense of empowerment.
Are you ready to elevate your business and embrace a more aligned, joyful year ahead? Connect with Kavita Melwani to explore how you can bridge your current success with your deepest purpose.
Reflect, realign, and rise. The time is now for you to shine your light.

Key Topic of This Episode: Self-awareness, Reflection and Energy for Business Success

Primary Topic: Reflection and Intention Setting

  • Importance of reflecting on the past year
  • Aligned planning workshop and its benefits
  • Setting intentions for the year ahead
  • Trusting intuition and making guided decisions
    Primary Topic: Mercury Retrograde and Self-Reflection
  • Exploring the concept of Mercury retrograde
  • Encouraging self-reflection during this period
  • Letting go of what no longer serves
  • Paying attention to inner revelations and realizations
    Primary Topic: Conscious Choices and Inner Work
  • Emphasizing the need for conscious decision-making
  • Examining subconscious programming and its impact on behavior
  • Aligning actions with conscious intentions
  • Doing the inner work to understand and overcome obstacles
    Primary Topic: Seeking Aligned Support
  • Encouraging seeking support for business growth
  • Inviting listeners to book a session for personalized support
  • Emphasizing the importance of aligned support for a successful year

Analogy of This Episode: Self-awareness, Reflection and Energy for Business Success

Sure, here’s a fun analogy to explain the concept of self-reflection and Mercury retrograde:
Imagine you’re driving a car on a long road trip. Self-reflection is like taking a pit stop to check your map, refuel, and stretch your legs. It’s a chance to look back at the journey so far, see if you’re on the right track, and decide if there are any detours or scenic routes you’d like to take.
Mercury retrograde is like a stretch of road where you have to slow down and navigate carefully. Rather than fearing it, think of it as a cosmic speed bump that encourages you to pause, look at the scenery, and reflect on your journey. It’s a reminder to be mindful of your decisions and not rush into major intersections without checking your direction first.
Just like a road trip, life and business require a balance of pushing forward and taking breaks to reflect, recalibrate, and enjoy the scenery along the way.

Transcript for This Episode

Kavita Melwani [00:00:30]:

Hello. My name is Kavita Melwani and I’m a master, certified success and business coach. With two decades of experience as an entrepreneur and almost a decade as a coach, I want to personally welcome you to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast, where my vision is to empower as many spiritually led businesses to run purpose and profitable businesses aligned with their true selves. I want you to confidently and opulently shine your light without the overwhelm, the stress, or the burnout. Together, we will explore challenges that soulful entrepreneurs face and real implementable solutions so you can step into your unique purpose and shine. It is possible to bridge the success you already have with the truest soulful, mystical parts of yourself. Are you ready to rise up as the leader you were born to be? Then join me, my soulful friends. The time is now for you to rise up and shine your light.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:36]:

The world needs you.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:41]:

Hello and welcome to this week’s episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Podcast.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:49]:


Kavita Melwani [00:01:49]:

So I have been spending this time to reflect on 2023, and some of you were able to attend the aligned planning workshop that I had on Friday. During this time, I was able to reflect on the year at a deeper level in a group which is so powerful. The collective energy of being together and reflecting and then looking forward to the year ahead will definitely help propel you from moving forward.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:22]:

And so, if you weren’t able to.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:23]:

Attend and you still would like to follow that aligned planning system that I have, I have some great news. I am offering that as a course. It is a short course. It’s only 3 hours, but it has some powerful exercises visualizations. And as a bonus, for those of you that are interested in the course before the end of the month, I am offering a 15 to 20 minutes call after you complete the course to answer any questions and coach you through what you would like to create in the year ahead. So if you are interested in that, I will have a link in the show notes with more information and you can just email me or contact me and I will send you the information. All right? So as I was going through that process myself, before I ran the planning workshop, there were a lot of things this last year that I spent time on and invested in that really did not feel aligned. And so one of the intentions that I set for the year ahead is to go back to trusting myself and following my intuitive guidance before I make decisions in my business.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:53]:

And so it felt like this year when I was reflecting that all those choices were lessons for me, they were there for me to learn and I can take those lessons and move forward, or I can beat myself up. So instead, I have decided to feel the sadness, feel whatever feelings have come up for me and it’s a complete mix of different emotions for those choices and just allow the lessons to come through. And what I saw as my main lesson was to follow my intuition and if I followed my intuitive guidance and what it was telling me, and even going still allowing myself to go past my comfort zone if I was definitely more conscious and aware of what’s in my shadow. And even though I have that awareness, like really bringing that forward and being connected to that consciously, then I may have made some different choices. So my intention for the year ahead is to continue to grow in my business and any choice that I make will be guided by my truth. And I’m not going to give my power away to someone else who seemingly knows more than I do. Okay? So that is what my intention is for the year ahead. And that reflection, that time, if I had not spent that time reflecting and then I would not have come up with that.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:36]:

Right? And so during the workshop, there were some other people that had some awarenesses and so one of them was about the fact that they weren’t actually being visible, they weren’t actually marketing as much as they thought they were, even though they were working really hard and so shifting their focus and energy in the year ahead. And so I talk about this reflection time because for those of you that follow astrology and I love following all the things, right? So astrology and crystals and all of that. And I don’t necessarily talk about that a lot, but that is part of what I do look at and consider. We’re coming up to a period of the Mercury retrograde which people have a lot of fear around this and there does not need to be fear. This is about a period for self reflection. So it’s a wonderful time for you to look inward, to pay attention to your life, to kind of step out a little bit and take yourself out of the doing energy and be more in the being and self reflective energy. Not making any super major decisions unless you’ve already started working on it, just giving yourself a little time to make those decisions, right? It doesn’t mean you don’t do it. It’s about the self reflection.

Kavita Melwani [00:07:04]:

What is it that you want to do differently in the year ahead? What are things that no longer serve you anymore? And just because you let go of something doesn’t mean that it was bad, right? Sometimes it is about taking what you needed at the time and then it becomes a time to move on to something else and that’s okay, right? There is nothing wrong with that. So just paying attention. And so I do follow a couple of astrologers and some of the things that are being said that some things will be revealed, some things that were not clear before. And so the thing is, if you’re not paying attention, if you’re so busy in the doing, you will not notice those things. You will not notice the things that you are ready to let go of. So whether you choose to do my process of planning or you do your own, I’m going to encourage you to use this time to reflect on the past year. Reflect on the things that you’ve done, what you’ve focused on, what you’ve invested in, what you’re spending your time doing. And kind of do this reflection time audit and then step back and look at it with the idea that you are not judging yourself.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:38]:

You’re going to accept that this is what I’ve done. And only with that awareness, only with that consciousness, are you able to move forward and make a different choices. If you just keep doing the same things that you’ve been doing, you’re going to get the same results, right? And if you keep doing things and looking for answers and then skipping from thing to thing, you’re probably not reaching your goals, right? And so how do you know if you’re not connected consciously well by your results? What is happening? What are the results that you’re seeing? That is the indication of your energy. That is the indication of what’s in your subconscious mind. Even if you consciously want something and you consciously believe something, if there is this tendency, this subconscious programming that you’ve had since childhood which controls over 90, sometimes people say 95% of your behavior, your results may not match your intentions, your conscious intentions, right? So bringing those things into consciousness, bringing the awareness of how you’re spending your time, bringing the awareness of the things that you’re investing in, maybe programs, maybe how your courses, you’re taking all those things and then examining where you are, deciding where you want to go and what you need to get there, that is the key. That is the key to moving forward in addition to doing the inner work, to seeing what is actually stopping you. So take this time to self reflect, look at what is happening, what are you creating and how is your internal voice and world creating that and contributing to that so that you can have a successful year, a more successful aligned, joyful year in 2024. So if you have any questions about reflection, you’re ready to move forward into a year and know that having aligned support would help you.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:11]:

Let’s talk. Let’s talk. Let’s connect. There will be a link in the show notes to be able to book a 30 minutes call and elevate your business session. And we can dive into that bridge of what’s missing, what is it that you need support with? And whether we will talk about whether working together is a good fit or not as well. So in the meantime, reflect, enjoy and take good care. Bye.

It is time to quit or are you at the Tipping Point?

How to know If it is time to quit or if are you at the Tipping Point??

Are you feeling unmotivated or unsure about whether to keep pushing forward or to throw in the towel? The decision of whether to persist or quit can be daunting, especially in the face of obstacles and uncertainty. In this week’s episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club, host Kavita Melwani delves into a topic that many of us can relate to – knowing when it’s time to quit something or whether we’re approaching the tipping point.
Patience, Persistence, and Consistency:
Kavita emphasizes the importance of patience, persistence, and consistency in achieving our goals. Just like with exercise, where consistent effort yields long-term results, the same holds true for various aspects of our lives, such as career, business, relationships, and personal endeavors. It’s crucial to be persistent and not give up too soon, as the tipping point—the moment when our efforts cross a threshold and yield extraordinary results—could be just around the corner.
Three Ways to Determine Quitting Time or the Tipping Point:

  1. Take a Step Back: Stepping back from a situation provides a different perspective and can help in making clearer decisions. Consider taking a break, such as a vacation, to gain a new outlook on your career, business, or relationships. Asking yourself honest questions, seeking insights from a third party, and exploring any fear or uncertainty can reveal whether it’s time to quit or if it’s just burnout that needs addressing.
  2. Write It Down: Journaling and writing down your thoughts can help examine the situation from different angles. By acknowledging the progress you’ve made, you may find renewed motivation to continue or identify areas for change.
  3. Take Action and Prioritize: After evaluating your perspective and insights gained from journaling, it’s time to take action. This could involve brainstorming new ideas, seeking support from others, celebrating your achievements, and creating a plan for change, especially if it’s time to quit and move on to something new.
    Understanding the Significance of Nurturing Your Personal and Professional Growth:
    Whether it’s acknowledging burnout, seeking validation, fear of the unknown, or lack of external results, making decisions about quitting or persisting requires introspection, support, and planning. It’s essential to recognize that quitting doesn’t necessarily mean failure, and moving on from certain aspects of our lives can lead to personal and professional growth.
    Kavita Melwani’s Aligned Vision Workshop:
    Alongside the insightful podcast episode, Kavita Melwani invites listeners to her upcoming Aligned Vision Workshop. This event will provide practical guidance on creating an aligned vision for the future, be it for the next year, quarter, or six months, in a supportive group setting.

    As Kavita Melwani aptly puts it, the decision to quit or persist in pursuing our goals requires patience, introspection, and support. Taking a step back, journaling, and prioritizing action can guide us through this decision-making process. Whether it’s recognizing burnout, celebrating achievements, or creating a plan for change, it’s crucial to nurture personal and professional growth.
    Remember, it’s essential to give yourself the time and space to make informed decisions, as you may be on the verge of a tipping point. If you find yourself contemplating quitting or wanting to assess your next step, I encourage you to listen to Kavita Melwani’s Soulful Entrepreneurs Club episode for practical insights and consider joining her aligned vision workshop to gain further clarity and guidance.

Key Topics of The Episode: It is time to quit or are you at the Tipping Point?

Primary Topic: Knowing When to Quit or Keep Going

  • Introducing the topic of knowing when it’s time to quit something or if you’re at the tipping point.
  • Discussing the challenging nature of the past few years and the uncertainty many people are facing.
  • Sharing personal experiences of feeling like giving up on goals and the decision-making process.
  • The significance of understanding when to persist and when to let go
  • The impact of external feedback and results on motivation
    Primary Topic: Strategies for Knowing When to Quit or Continue
  • Discussing the need to be patient, persistent, and consistent to yield results
  • Exploring the impact of burnout, lack of motivation, and exhaustion on decision-making
  • Explaining the importance of taking a step back for a fresh perspective
  • Emphasizing the value of seeking third-party perspectives for clarity
  • The relationship between patience, persistence, and consistent action
  • Recognizing signs of burnout and exhaustion, especially in a work-from-home scenario
  • Benefits of stepping back and examining the situation from a different perspective
  • The importance of seeking impartial perspectives to aid decision-making
    Primary Topic: Utilizing Journaling and Writing as Decision-making Tools
  • Highlighting the benefits of writing down thoughts and emotions in decision-making
  • Discussing the cognitive impact of writing down thoughts and examining situations from various angles
  • Encouraging the practice of listing achievements and acknowledging progress
  • Emphasizing the importance of prioritizing internal and external action based on introspection
  • Exploring the cognitive benefits of writing down thoughts and emotions
  • Adapting journaling and writing practices to assess achievements and progress
  • Emphasizing the importance of prioritizing action based on introspection
    Primary Topic: Taking Action and Celebrating Progress
  • Exploring the outcomes and decision-making processes based on introspection and perspective shifting
  • Discussing the importance of action in response to introspection
  • Encouraging the celebration of personal progress and decision-making, regardless of the outcome
  • Highlighting the importance of planning for future actions and changes
  • Considering the different outcomes of introspection and the need for action
  • Emphasizing the importance of celebrating personal progress and decisions
  • Encouraging planning for future changes and taking action based on introspection

Analogy of It is time to quit or are you at the Tipping Point Episode

Sure, here’s a short analogy to explain the concepts explored in the session:
Deciding whether to quit something or keep going is like deciding whether to continue climbing a mountain or take a break. Just like when you’re hiking and you come to a point where you feel exhausted, you may wonder if it’s time to turn back or keep going. Taking a break allows you to rest, regain your strength, and see the scenery from a different perspective. Maybe you realize you actually want to reach the summit, or maybe you decide that the view from where you are is already amazing. It’s like reassessing your career or business, taking a step back, writing down your thoughts, and then deciding whether to continue your journey or carve a new path.

Transcript of This Episode: It is time to quit or are you at the Tipping Point?

Kavita Melwani [00:00:06]:

Welcome to this week’s episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club. This week, I’m sharing a previous episode that is really relevant today. So this episode is about when to know when it’s time to quit something.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:23]:

Or you’re just there.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:24]:

You’re almost there at the tipping point.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:27]:

For a lot of us, these last.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:28]:

Few years have been challenging and even more so this year.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:34]:

So if you are feeling like you’re.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:37]:

Ready to give up on something that you’ve been working towards and you’re not sure if it’s the right time, then listen to this week’s episode and see if it can help you with that decision. I know that I’ve felt this many times over the course of having my business, and there have been points where I’ve thought, I wonder what I could.

Kavita Melwani [00:00:59]:

Do instead because I’ve hit these points.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:02]:

That are so difficult. So I’m hoping that this episode will help you, and I would love to hear from you. If you hear something that’s beneficial, send me a message. I’d love to hear what you received from this episode. And also, I’d like to invite you to my aligned vision workshop, which is this Friday from 09:00 A.m to 12:00 p.m. Pacific time.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:28]:

It is going to be an event.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:32]:

Where we work together to create an aligned vision for you for the next year or quarter or six months, however far ahead you want to plan.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:42]:

And by really looking at you, your.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:46]:

Business, where you are and then where you want to go and what you.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:51]:

Want to create next year, spending this.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:53]:

Time to plan is so valuable, and.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:55]:

Doing it in a group is very powerful.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:58]:

So I’d love to see you there. If you’re interested, there’s a registration link in the show notes.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:04]:

Either way, enjoy this week’s episode. Hello, enlightened Hearts. This is Kavita coming to you with a topic that I am hearing so much lately, especially with all the uncertainty and the things that are happening around us. So people have been coming and are really not sure if they should stop doing something or leave something.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:37]:

So they are coming and deciding, is.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:39]:

It time to quit? Or am I at the tipping point where this is actually going to work.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:45]:

In my favor and where I’m actually.

Kavita Melwani [00:02:47]:

Going to accomplish some of my goals? So I’m going to dive deep into that. So if you’re starting to feel a lack of motivation, if you’re feeling done with certain things, then this episode has some tips to help you. I’m going to discuss three ways to.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:07]:

Know if it is quitting time or.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:10]:

It’S the tipping point. So let’s dive in. So, patience. We’re often taught that we need to be patient in order to receive the results that we want in our lives. We need to be persistent and consistent. And I will say that when you are patient, persistent, and consistent, that you will often receive results in dividends, like exponential results, right? So sometimes you do something and it doesn’t happen right away.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:45]:

An easy example would be exercise.

Kavita Melwani [00:03:49]:

So if you do one workout, you may feel more energetic, you may sleep better that night, but that result is not long lasting, right? So in order to receive long term results, you need to be consistently exercising. Okay? And that’s when you’re going to start to see the long term results. Maybe your body shape changes a little bit. Maybe some other things happen with your energy levels.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:18]:

Maybe your cholesterol goes down.

Kavita Melwani [00:04:21]:

Right? There’s lots of benefits to exercise. Now, there are times I’m sure that you have felt a lack of motivation, like a lack of motivation to exercise, a lack of motivation to do anything that has to do with physical activity. And when you reach those points, it’s like a choice point, right? So can you or do you continue to exercise or do you quit? Or you could choose a third option, which is to take a temporary break, which I’ll also talk about. Now, exercise is an easy one because there is so much data we may have received physical feedback from actually performing exercise. And so that we can reignite motivation by reminding ourselves of those results and.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:15]:

Even maybe seeing pictures of ourselves pass when we were consistently exercised.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:20]:

There’s a lots of ways, right, to remoteivate.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:23]:

What I’m talking about today is other.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:26]:

Actions that you take where you may not see those consistent results and there’s not necessarily the external positive feedback so.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:35]:

That you can make a decision that.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:39]:

You will continue or you will quit. So what are some things like that? Maybe it’s your current job, maybe it’s your business.

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Maybe it’s a group that you’re part of.

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Maybe it’s a friendship, maybe it’s another relationship. Those are the things that I’m referring to that are more complicated and it can be more difficult to make a decision of whether you should quit or keep going. So these things can sometimes take a while to see the results, right? So I’m going to use the example.

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Of career business work.

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Okay? So what is something that you can use? You can apply these principles, these strategies.

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That I’m going to teach you.

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Think of something, bring that into your mind’s eye right now so that you can apply it right away while I’m talking, okay? So take a step back and look at this thing.

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And in this case, we’re talking about.

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Career as an example. How do you feel in this career? Do you see yourself as truly being persistent and be honest with yourself, right? Are you being persistent? Is this something that you are taking consistent action with? Because the reality is, if you give up too soon, you may miss your tipping point. So according to Malcolm Gladwell, the tipping point is that magic moment when an idea, trend or social behavior crosses a threshold, tips and spreads like wildfire. In fact, he’s written a book about this phenomenon he calls The Tipping Point. So in order to reach the tipping point, you do need to take that consistent action and there are times where it’s time to quit. Okay? So I am going to talk about that.

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The first step in knowing if it.

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Is quitting time or the tipping point is to take a step back.

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So they say that when you’re in.

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The middle of a situation, it’s really.

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Hard to determine what the next step is, right?

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And so if you’ve ever had the experience, when you step away from a project or you step away from a task or from a problem, and then.

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You come back to it and the.

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Answer seems really clear, or when you’re.

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Out doing running errands or going for.

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A walk or even in the shower, the answer comes to you. So it’s like when you are not actually actively forcing yourself, forcing your brain to come up with a solution, you’re.

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Able to step away from being within.

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It and you’re able to see it from a different perspective, okay?

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So it changes your point of view.

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And so the first thing to do is to really step away from the situation. So if it’s a career, maybe you have to take a vacation day or a vacation week, right?

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And taking that vacation can give you.

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Some perspective about the gifts, about your.

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Career or work or business and what.

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Are the things that are in your.

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Situation that are challenging and unfulfilling, right? And so you can really be honest.

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With yourself, which is very difficult when.

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You’Re in the busyness of it, when you’re in the process of actually doing.

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And fulfilling your goals and taking steps all the time.

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Okay? And so then you can ask yourself.

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Questions like, are you holding on to this because you’re afraid to let go? Are you holding on to this because you don’t know what’s next? And that’s a thing I hear a.

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Lot about in careers, right? They’re like, well, I am in this career and I don’t know what to.

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Do next, so I’m just going to stay here. Now, there may be some financial reasons.

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That you need to stay in a.

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Job or career and so that needs to be also clear, right?

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So if you decide when you’re taking a step back that you really don’t.

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Want to do this anymore, there’s lots of reasons.

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First, I would recommend you bring in.

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A third party as a way to step back, as a way to see it from a different perspective. Oftentimes friends and family have bias and biases.

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So I always say if you can.

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Speak to a therapist or a coach.

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And you can receive that third, that perspective, that is really valuable, right?

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And so one of the things I.

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Offer is a clarity session, right?

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And so sometimes I have clarity sessions.

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Oftentimes, and the client receives so much from that clarity session already and decide.

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Oh, they need further work now to figure out their next career, or the clarity session is all they needed, right? So if that’s something you need support with, taking a step back from your.

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Situation, then I’m going to recommend there.

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Will be a link in the show notes to schedule that with me.

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Okay? And if it’s not with me, if.

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It’S someone else, right? A third party that has no bias.

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Which is difficult when you have another.

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Type of relationship with them.

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So really being clear, are you afraid? Are you not doing it because are.

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You not stepping back because you don’t.

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Know what the next step is? And then on the other side of that is, do you just need a break? Right? Are you just feeling a little burnt out? Are you just feeling exhausted and tired? I’ve been hearing from a lot of.

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People that working from home that a.

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Lot of us have been doing has.

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Been more work, right?

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And there’s been this lack of separation between the home life and the work life. And that can create exhaustion, right? Not having that mental, emotional, even like energetic separation from work and home life. So when you step back and step away from it, you can ask yourself.

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These honest questions, right, and looking at it from a different perspective versus when you’re delving deep into what is happening. Okay?

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And the other thing to ask yourself is, are you just getting tired of.

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Not seeing the external results?

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So, like, if that’s in a business.

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Maybe your income is not where you want, right?

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Maybe you don’t have enough customers, clients.

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Patients, whatever your business is. Or if it’s in a corporate job or a career, maybe you’re not getting the validation. Maybe you’re not getting the income you want. Maybe you’re not getting the raises. Maybe your bosses, superior supervisors don’t see.

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You and don’t acknowledge you.

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And that feels like the reason that you want to step back, right?

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So really stepping back and as you can imagine, all those things have different things that you can do to work with that, right? Oftentimes we’ll just say, I’m done with this, and you’ll just quit. And sometimes it’s not about quitting, right? Sometimes it’s like, well, I need to do this. Maybe I need to ask for some validation. Maybe I need to look and ask.

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And say, hey, I want to be.

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The best I can. I want to get a promotion. What can I do to be able to receive that? What do I need to do for that?

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I am interested in working more with people. How can I do that? So these are all things that you can do.

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And you can use all the things you have, use your current career and.

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Even improve how you are and what you’re doing. And then if it’s your business, then you can look and see, what can I do differently. Have I been doing this consistently? How have I been showing up energetically.

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When I’m taking action?

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Which is a whole other thing, right? And then you can make decisions, right? So another thing, that’s tip number one. Tip number two is write it down. This is kind of similar to taking a step back, but maybe you can take a break. Maybe you cannot take a day or.

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A week off and you’re in the.

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Scenario where you need to make decisions.

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Quickly or you need some more time, right?

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On the flip side, maybe a week.

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Off isn’t enough time.

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So in that case, the second tip of writing it down, okay?

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So reexamine the situation and write down your thoughts.

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When you’re journaling and when you’re writing things down, it uses different parts of your brain than the spiral thinking. It also forces you to examine things.

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From different angles in a different perspective. I’m thinking you’re hearing a pattern here.

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About the perspective shifts, right? So when you take a time to write down what the scenario is, some insights might come. You may need to use some other processes, right? Maybe you need to write a list.

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Of all the things that you receive from your current career or business, right? And then maybe you also need to.

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Write down the progress that you’ve made and all the things you have done. Because this is the thing our brain loves to focus on, what we haven’t done yet, what we have left to accomplish, and forgets all that we’ve already done, right? So when you actually sit down and write and acknowledge what you’ve done, you may shift how you feel about it. That might even be all you need to help with your lack of motivation or feeling burnt out, right? And so if that’s the case, then.

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You can add that kind of practice.

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Of keeping track of all the things you have done on a regular basis.

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Maybe you do it daily, maybe you.

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Do it weekly, whatever you can do to really connect with all that you have done.

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So you are not going to what.

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Your brain defaults to, which is what you haven’t done yet.

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So step number one, take a step back. Really look at the situation. Take a break if you need to. That way you can ask yourself some questions. Number two can be used concurrently with number one. Or you could use it when you can take a break, right? So that is about writing and journaling. There are so many processes that you can use to help you journal as well.

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And one of them, like I said.

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Is just writing a list of what are the things you have done. One could be completely just dumping out everything in your brain onto a piece of paper, all that you’re feeling, right? And then that can help with that. Reduce the spiraling thoughts and you can look at things from a different perspective. So number three is to take some action and prioritize it based on what you saw. So let me be clear if what you’re seeing after writing things down is, you know what, this situation that I’m in right now, I really haven’t done much, or the things I’ve done, I really don’t want to continue doing.

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Or I’m just burnt out from this.

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This does not feel fulfilling anymore. Even after you take a break, you are completely unmotivated.

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You don’t have energy.

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Then it may be time to consider quitting. Okay? On the other hand, once you take a step back, you look at all that you’ve done, you realize that you’re.

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On your path and that you’re really.

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Just feeling a lack of motivation because you are not getting the results that you would like, then that’s a different situation, right? And if that’s the case, then it is time for you to take action. Okay? So this could be internal or external action, right?

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So one of the things I recommended earlier was to if you’re motivated by.

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Looking at what you have accomplished, keep a practice of writing what you’ve accomplished, right? Review it.

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Maybe now that maybe you have a.

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Business and you’ve been working on marketing and doing things, and you’re just like, nothing’s working. Right?

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And so when you wrote down things.

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And you took a perspective, you’re like.

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Yes, I still am passionate about this business.

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I still want to continue doing this, but I need to do some things differently. There. Now you know what you can focus on, right? Instead of deciding, I’m just done well, you know, you’re actually not done. You’re done with actually taking action on marketing where you’re not receiving the results that you need. You’re not done with your business, right? So then it’s not about quitting. It’s about checking in and taking different action.

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And so you can keep this perspective and prioritize action based on what comes through through this introspection that you’re taking through this stepping back, right? You can brainstorm new ideas again. You can work with someone, a third party to help you come up with new strategies. If you’ve decided that you’re done well, then creating a plan for yourself, right? So a lot of times people will say, I’m done with my job. I’m quitting. And then they haven’t put in some financial stability for themselves, right? So then they’re stressed.

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They come to points where they would.

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Not like to be right now, on the other hand, if you’re in a place where your health is being impacted.

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And you know you need to leave.

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Something, then you do it, right? And you figure it out and receive the support. But if you’re not in that place and you can plan, why not? Why not plan? Create that plan of like, when are.

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You going to leave?

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When are you going to need to do how much money do you need to save? Right? And what can you do differently? How can I reignite?

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Motivation okay, and so that’s the prioritizing.

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The action piece, right? And so another thing to do for yourself, which I see people not doing, is celebrating what you’ve done, right? So even if you decide to quit something, acknowledge yourself for taking a chance, for doing whatever it was that you did.

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If it’s a career change or it’s.

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A business change, or even if you decide that a relationship is no longer serving you, that doesn’t mean that you’re leaving the relationship.

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And it’s just this thing that is horrible and you don’t want anything to do with it.

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It could be that you’ve received what you need to from that relationship and they’ve received what they need to from you, and it’s just time to move on. It doesn’t mean that it was bad, right? Take the lessons, take what you’ve learned, grow as a person and move forward. So is it quitting time or is it a tipping point? If you need help with this, I’d be happy to speak with you.

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And once you’ve kind of taken these.

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Steps, allow yourself time. We can be impatient. We can say, I need to do this and make this change now. But really giving yourself that time, you may be on the verge of a tipping point. Okay? So in the meantime, take good care and I’ll be back again soon. Bye.

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Making the Most of the Holidays

Embracing the Holiday Season & Making the most of the holidays: Navigating Triggers and Finding Gratitude

The holiday season can be a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness for many, but it can also evoke feelings of loneliness, overwhelm, and family challenges. In this week’s episode (Making the most of the holidays) of the Soulful Entrepreneurs podcast, coach Kavita Melwani sheds light on why this is a perfect opportunity for some deep introspection and shadow work. By understanding our triggers, examining our expectations, and practicing self-compassion, we can make the most of the holidays and create a fulfilling experience aligned with our true selves.

  1. Acknowledging Your Triggers:
    During the holiday season, it’s important to identify the feelings and thoughts that arise within us. Whether it’s the pressure of hosting the perfect gathering or the sense of exclusion when feeling different from the traditional family image, recognizing these triggers is the first step towards addressing them.
  2. Giving Voice to Your Emotions:
    Allow your emotions to be expressed. One effective method is journaling about what triggers you and why it bothers you. This practice helps bring awareness to your emotions, allowing you to process them and gain deeper insights into their origins.
  3. Embrace Shadow Work:
    While journaling aids in understanding triggers, deeper healing often requires the assistance of a coach, therapist, or impartial third party. Shadow work involves exploring the underlying beliefs, fears, and wounds that contribute to our triggers and reactions. It is recommended to seek professional support to navigate this process effectively.
  4. Adjusting Your Expectations:
    If hosting a gathering, assess why it matters to you and what expectations you have regarding gratitude and appreciation. Recognize that people may not respond as we desire, and waiting for that validation can lead to disappointment. Imagine ways to give yourself gratitude and recognition, as well as setting clear boundaries and asking for support from loved ones.
  5. Redefining Traditions:
    If you find yourself alone during the holidays, create experiences that align with your desires and values. Volunteer, spend time with friends or chosen family, or explore different cuisines that bring you joy. Remind yourself that you have the freedom to shape your own traditions and make choices that serve your well-being.
  6. Applying Lessons to Your Business:
    Take the insights gained from this process and apply them to your entrepreneurial journey. Clarify what you want to focus on, what results you desire, and how much time and energy you can allocate. Avoid succumbing to societal expectations and instead create a business that aligns with your values and brings you joy.

The holiday season can be a transformative time when we intentionally examine our triggers, expectations, and reactions. By doing the inner work, we empower ourselves to respond differently, create fulfilling experiences, and cultivate gratitude for ourselves and others. Remember, the holidays are an opportunity to embody the leader we were born to be and to shine our light in both our personal lives and business endeavors.

Remember, you have the power to embrace the holiday season with self-awareness, compassion, and authenticity. Allow yourself to rise up and create a joyous, purposeful, and harmonious experience for yourself and those around you. Happy holidays!

Key Topics of this Episode

Primary Topic: Making the most of the Holidays

  • Importance of addressing emotions and challenges during the holiday season
  • Benefits of doing shadow work during this time

Identifying triggers and feelings associated with the holidays

  • Exploring thoughts and emotions related to hosting, family dynamics, and obligations

Processing emotions and triggers

  • Writing down triggers and journaling about them
  • Seeking support from a coach or therapist to process emotions

Understanding the concept of shadow work

  • Recognizing the need to go deeper in addressing triggers and challenges
  • Recommending not to do shadow work alone and seeking guidance

Changing patterns and responding differently

  • Examining reactions to comments or situations during the holidays
  • Identifying the underlying reasons for upset and disappointment
  • Shifting focus from external validation to self-recognition and gratitude
  • Considering alternatives in hosting or seeking support from others

Creating a fulfilling holiday experience

  • Exploring ways to avoid loneliness and create a positive environment
  • Volunteering, connecting with others, or finding alternative ways to celebrate
  • Reflecting on personal desires and making choices aligned with those desires

Seeking additional support if needed

  • Recommending therapy for deeper traumas or family issues
  • Encouraging journaling and self-reflection as a starting point for processing emotions

Applying insights to entrepreneurship

  • Relating the principles to business decision-making during the holiday season
  • Considering what the desired outcomes and feelings in the business should be
  • Choosing focus areas based on personal goals and priorities
  • Empowering individuals to take control of their holiday experience and create meaningful connections
  • Encouraging self-reflection, emotional processing, and seeking support when necessary

Analogy of what Kavita Discusses on this Episode- Making the Most of the Holidays

Imagine you’re hosting a big Thanksgiving dinner for your family and friends. You want everything to be perfect – the decorations, the food, the ambiance. But as the day progresses, you find yourself overwhelmed and frustrated. People criticize your cooking, no one offers to help, and you feel underappreciated.
Now, let’s imagine this Thanksgiving dinner is like running a business. You are the host, and your business is the dinner. Just like wanting your guests to enjoy the meal, you want your business to succeed and thrive. But sometimes, things don’t go as planned. Maybe customers complain, employees don’t pitch in, or you feel like you’re not getting the recognition you deserve.
In both scenarios, the key is to reflect on your feelings and reactions. Why are certain comments or situations so triggering? Deep down, you may just want to be acknowledged, appreciated, and valued for your efforts. But waiting for others to express gratitude can often lead to disappointment.
Instead, consider taking control of the situation by first giving yourself recognition and appreciation. Understand that you have the power to create a Thanksgiving dinner (or a business) that aligns with your desires and values. Maybe you ask for help or explore different ways to make the experience more enjoyable.
Ultimately, it’s about finding the balance between what you want to create and what is expected of you. By stepping back, reflecting, and making intentional choices, you can have a Thanksgiving (and a business) that brings joy, fulfillment, and success.

Transcript of This Episode- Making the Most of the Holidays

Kavita Melwani [00:00:00]:

Hello. My name is Kavita Melwani, and I’m a master certified success and business coach with two decades of experience as an entrepreneur and almost a decade as a coach. I want to personally welcome you to the Soulful Entrepreneurs Club podcast, where my vision is to empower as many spiritually led businesses to run purposeful and profitable businesses aligned with true selves. I want you to confidently and opulently shine your light without the overwhelm, the stress or the burnout. Together, we will explore challenges that soulful entrepreneurs face and real, implementable solutions so you can step into your unique purpose and shine. It is possible to bridge the success you already have with the truest, soulful, mystical parts of yourself. Are you ready to rise up as the leader you were born to be? Then join me, my soulful friends. The time is now for you to rise up and shine your light.

Kavita Melwani [00:01:06]:

The world needs you. Hello, soulful entrepreneurs. Welcome to this week’s episode of the Soulful Entrepreneurs podcast. Okay, so I know for those of you that are in the United States, this is an interesting week. This is a week that we celebrate Thanksgiving. And for some of you, it’s a time of fun and family and a lot of maybe hosting. And for others, it can be a very isolating and lonely time and can bring up some family challenges that you’ve had in the past, maybe losses that you’ve had, and seeing all the messages around you about how this time of year is about being grateful and that it’s for family and all of that can be difficult. So in today’s episode, I want to talk to you about why this is a good time to do some shadow work.

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And of course, ideally with a coach, but also so that you can move forward and not feel the intensity of this time in the way that you’re feeling it now. And even if you do feel this moving forward, you know what you need to do to be able to process the emotions, to recognize what’s happening and to show up in the way that you want to show up. Okay, so first, no matter which category you are in, if you are in the category of feeling the trigger, feeling alone, feeling different from and in that way not really fitting the traditional, what it needs to or supposed to look like as a family, or you might be overwhelmed with all of the family and all the things and the obligations. So whichever one it is, either way can be triggering. So when you think about the holidays and you think about, especially this week and the hosting and the food, what are the feelings and thoughts that come up for you. And then what are the people? If you’re going to be around people that bother you the most, who are those people? And when you think about the people that bother you, if you’re not going to be surrounded by people, then you can think about what messages and situations around you that you’re being told that you need to have are triggering for you. So going towards that feeling, giving that feeling of voice, how can you give that feeling some way to express itself? One of the healthiest ways is to be able to write about it. And if you’re working with someone that helps you process your emotions, someone impartial, like a coach or a therapist or someone like that, who is considered like a third party, then you can process it with that person.

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But allowing, even if all you do is to write down the triggers, write down what’s bothering you, and what about them that’s bothering you. That’s a starting point. Okay. Now the shadow work is a little deeper, and that’s not something that I would suggest that you do on your own. But I think being and bringing that awareness of what’s bothering you and why it’s bothering you gives you the opportunity to respond differently than you have been in the past. So let me give you a few examples. So maybe for you, you’re a person that hosts Thanksgiving, and when you host, you want things to be pretty much almost perfect. You want everything to look good, you want the food to be a certain way, and you spend a lot of time on making sure everything goes well.

Kavita Melwani [00:05:24]:

And then when the people show up, you are working most of the time in the kitchen, and you’re working the whole time. And so you don’t get to sit down for a long time to sit and eat. Maybe you spend some time, and then afterwards you’re cleaning up, and at the end of it, you’re exhausted, okay? If you, at the end of that whole scenario, feel excited and happy and feel fulfilled that you were able to feed these people and that it was an amazing experience and you’re glad you have a year off from it, but you can’t wait to do it next year, then that is something that you just continue to do. On the other hand, if you’re feeling, wow, I was not appreciated, I can’t believe so and so didn’t even offer to help me. Or you’re feeling like, why do I have to host every year? Or you made too much food, or you didn’t make enough food, or someone made a comment about your decorations, or someone made a comment about the taste of your food. And that bothered you. So if you look at all those scenarios and you most likely have a normal reaction, right? So maybe your reaction is to be upset. Maybe your reaction is to sit there and stew and stay angry.

Kavita Melwani [00:06:49]:

But instead, what if you allowed yourself to look at it and see, why am I actually upset? And so maybe when a person makes a comment about your cooking or the decorations, it feels like they’re insulting you and your efforts and they don’t appreciate. And for you, being appreciated is important and you put in a lot of effort and you would like a thank you. Okay. And so your expectation is a person to be grateful and to say thank you. Well, the fact is that people don’t always respond and react the way we like. And when we’re wanting so badly to create a situation where people are grateful and we want to show them how hard we work and are hoping that they’re going to come back and say, wow, you did such a good job and we’re hanging on and waiting for that, then most likely you’re going to be disappointed. So when you recognize that you really want gratitude and you want to be people to say thank you, then I would go further and say, well, why is it important to you when someone says thank you? What does it feel like when someone expresses gratitude? And so how can you do that for yourself? How can you thank yourself in a way? Right? I know it sounds weird, but how can you create a situation where you are recognizing yourself? So how can you start to give yourself gratitude? How can you give yourself recognition? What could that look like? Right? And you can even ask people around you for support. You can ask them and the people that love you and say, you know what, it really is helpful when I do these things.

Kavita Melwani [00:08:44]:

And when I host, if you say thank you, I really appreciate when people say thank you. And when no one says thank you, I feel, and you can fill in the blank what you’re feeling, right. And so there’s a sense of, like, how can you show up differently, energetically and physically? How can you ask for what you need? Maybe you decide that, you know what, I actually don’t enjoy cooking all these things. I’m cooking all these things and doing all this because I want that recognition and thank you. And your brain is telling you that the more you do, the more likely you’re going to get that. So what about instead, if you decided that, well, I’m going to just do the things that I really enjoy doing, and maybe I’m going to order the rest of the food, or I’m going to ask people to support and bring something. And so you make it a little bit of a potluck, make it aligned with what you actually want versus what you believe you need to do. Okay.

Kavita Melwani [00:09:52]:

So that’s just one example of how you can change things around to support you. So if you are on your own and you are trying to not feel that loneliness, well, ask yourself what you want to create. What is it that you want to feel during this time? Right? You have the freedom to experience what you would like. And one of the things that is the most rewarding when we start to get lost in our own brain is to somehow give back and serve others. So is there a way that you can volunteer? Is there a person that you would like to see? Maybe it’s not on Thanksgiving Day, but maybe other days of the weekend you can get together with people. Maybe there’s a type of food that you really like, and you get that it doesn’t have to be the traditional meal. So how can you make this time of year serve you? How can you feel as good as possible? Now, I know that when you see all the messages and maybe you’re feeling triggered by not having family. Now, I’m going to encourage you, if you have some trauma or something that is really deep that happened this time of year or family trauma, that you receive support, okay, to speak to a therapist or whoever you need to.

Kavita Melwani [00:11:20]:

But if it’s not at that level, it’s more about just being triggered in this level of, like, this is annoying, and I can’t believe this. And why is it always like this? Why am I the only one? Then? That’s something you can process also through the journaling. Okay. And with that journaling, you can choose, what is it that I want to create? What is it that I want to feel, and what can I do to feel that now? So this is hopefully giving you some way to step back from what is happening, recognize what you’re feeling, recognize what you’re thinking, and also creating a scenario where you’re able to start to do the things so that you can have an experience closer to what you truly desire instead of being on a default reactive mode. So I’d love to hear from you if you tried this. I know this is a little bit of a departure from entrepreneurship, but I think that most of you as entrepreneurs, also have that family dynamics to work with, whatever that may be. And so you can take this this week, and you can even apply this to your business and say, well, what is it that I want my business to be like this week. What do I want to focus on this week? What would the results that I like this week to be? Right.

Kavita Melwani [00:12:40]:

And be clear about how much time you actually have. And how much time you want to spend. I’m going to recommend that you don’t get caught up in what you think you’re supposed to do. This is your life. This is your business. Choose what to focus on. Choose it based on what you want to create. What you want to feel.

Kavita Melwani [00:13:02]:

And the results you want. And then you can continue to create the life and the business that you love. So this is Kavita with soulful Entrepreneurs Club. I look forward to next week. Until then, take good care. Bye.

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